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A Secret Way To Get The Ex Back
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A Secret Way to Get the Ex Back

Since the breakup, you have been wondering how to get the ex back. I'll bet you have tried calling, texting, explaining via e-mail and maybe even crying a bit on Twitter. None of it has worked or you would not be reading this. What I am about to show you is a way to get your ex to call you back, even to meet with you. You have to get ready for this, though, and I will describe some things you can do to prepare for that meeting. One factor that may help or hurt is the time since the breakup. If it was rather recent, your chances may be better than for those who have been apart long enough for the ex to get involved with another.

First off, do you know why the breakup happened? It may seem to have been triggered by something you did or said, but usually people don't break up relationships because of one slight unless it was infidelity or abuse. If it was one of those, although you might have a chance using the techniques below, you are not really who I want reading this. I don't mean to condemn you. It may have been a moment of weakness and sometimes in the case of infidelity, you may have said 'no" many times or you may actually be falsely accused. My heart goes out to you. If you are an abuser, you need to get some help because you will really hurt your mate if you don't learn how to get the beast on a leash. 'Nuff said?

I cannot address here how to solve the problems that caused the breakup. I can say, though, that there was an attraction that brought you two together in the first place. You can use that to your advantage. It is a good starting place to rebuild yourself in preparation for meeting your ex. Let me stress this also, and it has worked for me, working on yourself first is a key part of how to get the ex back.

Now, this is how to get the ex back in his or her proper attitude toward you. You need to break off contact for a little while. I don't mean hours. I mean days. You need to get the ex time to miss you. The longer you were together, the more he or she will miss you. Let that work for you. It will show that you have your own legs to stand on - you don't have to be leaning on the ex all the time. The constant attempts at contact tend to push someone away instead of attracting them. You not only didn't give your ex a chance to miss you, you seemed desperate. Don't do desperate any more. Ok?

This part is how to get the ex back in a forgiving mood: cure the problem. Did you figure out what caused the breakup? Can you work on it? Let me offer this - keep your self respect. If the ex was a controller and you simply took some of the control back, do you really want that? If so, take care of that issue. If not, give reconciliation a second thought. I'm just trying to help.

This part is how to get the ex back in touch with you on the phone. Ok. Some time has passed. You have collected yourself and even gone out and loosened up a bit, and I hope you have considered how you can live successfully and well without your ex. The independent attitude from you will help you a lot here. Now - there is a phone call for you to make. You need to have a good plan together for what you will say when you are with your ex after this. You might do all right. I just like to make sure I am well prepared. I hope you are, when you do meet.

Anyway, you need to spend a little time thinking about what your ex has done or you. This is not how to get the ex back under your control, by the way, just how to get the ex back sitting in front of you. The key is to use your ex's own curiosity and ego and have them speak for you. You do that by using the something your ex did for you that you may not have ever thanked him or her for and that they may not realize you knew about.

The message you want to leave is something like this: "I really appreciate what you did for me. It means a whole lot to me, you really don't know. If you will, I would like to thank you in person and tell you what it has done for me and what it means to me. Maybe we can grab a snack or a drink and talk about it." You don't have to use those exact words, but you get the concept, I think. Curiosity and self importance can work very hard in your favor.

Now that you know how to get your ex back in front of you for a face to face, just make sure you are prepared to do what you must do to win him or her back after that. This is a very powerful technique that will hurt or destroy your chances of reconciliation if you do it wrong or without a well thought out plan, so if I were you, I would be well prepared. I do hope this has helped you as it did me.


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