They May Not Be Who You Think They Are

A lot of women find themselves dating a married man without even their knowledge. Though for some, it may be an attractive thing to be dating one, as there are no expectations such as those that the men expect from their wives. For some women however, it is the ultimate betrayal, as they picture a relationship that can last right up until they actually walk down the aisle and they get devastated to learn that it cannot happen.

Lets face it, there are guys who know how to play the dating game very well and can have a woman feeling like she is the only one in their lives. But no matter how good a guy can be, there are certain things that you can look out for that can give you clues to the kind of relationship you have or more importantly, it will give you clues to whether the man you have is married or not.

There are certain things that married man do when they are with a woman outside their marriage, like the time when they are able to call you. Dating a married man can cause you to get called only at certain times, like during office hours or during his lunch break. Unless he is the kind of guy who works until very late at night, getting him to call you at night is going to be very rare. That is because the second he leaves work, the only chance he has of calling you is when he is driving back home, and as soon as he gets home, his wife will be up in his business. Therefore, him calling you late at night to say good night will definitely pose a challenge.

Another factor that can alert you that you are dating a married man is in the people that you hang around with as a couple. He may be quite comfortable meeting your friends and hanging with them, but he may not feel comfortable letting you meet any of his friends. This is for the obvious reason that if he brings you around his friends, it can be very awkward as they already know his wife and there is no telling how they can react about that, especially the female friends who would probably feel some loyalty towards his wife which would propel them to tell her. Be on the alert, if he is only interested in being with you around your friends and he is not eager to introduce you to his friends, that could be telling you something more.

Another sign that you may be dating a married man lies in that he may be comfortable going home with you, and you may never have the opportunity to go with him to his home. This factor is also very connected with him not being able to spend nights at your place, or if it happens, it will probably be in very rare instances. If he never takes you to his home, and he is particular about what times he is at your place for, he definitely maybe a married guy.

There are many ways to meet a guy these days, from online dating sites to more traditional ways like a party. Married men like to lurk around the online dating sites, because it is so much easier than having to actively be social to meet someone. There are also instances where you might meet someone at a bar, who chats you up, which a married man is also quite likely to do, because some just want to have a drink before they head on home to be with their wives. Meeting a man in these type of settings can open up the possibility that the guy you meet can be married.

Dating a married man has a lot of challenges, like the fact that you will be competing for his attention with his wife, which can be difficult if you are unsure what it entails to share a guy you like with someone. If you meet him, fall for him and he is not forthcoming about his life, the fact that he is married can hurt you terribly.

You can make sure who you are dealing with before you get your heart broken, by doing a background check on guys that you like and you want to be sure that they do not have a wife lurking in the background. This can save you a lot of heartache in the long run, and you can avoid falling for someone that is married and practically unavailable.

You must use your instinct about the one your with. Keep communication active and positive. In the beginning of a new relationship, use caution, be aware that who you are dating may not be who you think. People have a tendency to put on a show, they try to impress you and you do not see the real picture. Get friends advice, family and others you trust. Take it slow at first and good luck finding a true and passionate mate.