Marriage is supposed to be a source of satisfaction and enjoyment in your life but that is no longer true ever since there has been infidelity in marriage. Now there is a big void in your life and you can’t trust your spouse anymore. You even started second guessing your past and present decisions. (i.e. “I was so sure he/she would never cheat on me”).

It would be nice if there was an easy solution to infidelity in marriage. One can leave your marriage stronger than it was before when things get turned back around. But right now you have no bearing in your life and what is worse the person you depended on to help you find your bearing is the same person who cheated and lost all the respect you had for him/her.

Good news is there are couple out there going through infidelity in marriage and finding their marriage is stronger. It is stronger because what caused the cheating somehow seems to come out somewhere towards the end. These couples are able to apply what they learned, work on it together, and create an environment in the relationship that prevents infidelity in marriage from happening again.

It sounds like something you can do except right now you feel lost and too hurt to help yourself let alone fix your infidelity in marriage. In this process you learn to cope, heal, and move on either together or by yourself. That means before you and your partner are able to work on the marriage; you both have to work on yourselves either together or apart.

You can work on regaining your self-esteem letting your confidence return. You go out and learn to have fun on your own again and find out you don’t have to rely on your spouse to feel good about yourself. Somewhere along the process you regain what you lost as a result of infidelity in marriage.

Your spouse doesn’t have to be there but it is better if he/she is. The cheating spouse’s participation is an immediate step in the right direction of regaining your trust. Not only that your spouse will learn he/she is able to talk with you about the infidelity in marriage.

It sounds simple but it won’t be easy to repair infidelity in marriage but is it worth it? With the cost of a divorce and the effect it will have on your children it really can be a good investment of your time and surviving an affair will certainly cost less.

I am Roy Holtz and I wrote” Easy Solution for Infidelity in Marriage " as a way to get the answers that work to you. I have a Blog called Dealing With Infidelity in Marriage if you are interested in learning more.