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Have you noticed that there is an urgent need in our society for helping men with avoiding infidelity and divorce? I’m still puzzled and amazed at how easily men let their guard down and let their ego and libido ruin their relationship and lives. I hope this helps you realize that avoiding infidelity is really in your best interest.

I know of some high profile cases in the media recently that gives some perspective on just how big of a problem men and society is dealing with. Not to pick on any particular person but here are some relationships to think about.

Mr. John Edwards (former Vice President Candidate), recently accused and indicted for using close to 1 million dollars of campaign contribution money to hide the affair and child he fathered while married. Keep in mind that his ego and pride still pushed him to run for the 2008 presidential nominee. By the way, his wife had been losing her battle with Cancer. Unfortunately, Mrs. Edwards passed away and Mr. Edwards might be heading to jail.

Another recent example of a man not doing enough to avoid infidelity is the Governator, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Upon completion of his term as Governor of CA it was divulged that he fathered a child 10 plus years ago. His wife has filed for divorce and stands to get around 500 million in the settlement. He has already lost the respect of his fans and sponsors and will no doubt lose his wife.

I could keep going on by mentioning Tiger Woods, Tony Parker, Elliot Spitzer, Kelsey Grammer, David Letterman, Jesse James, Billy Joel and so on and so on.

The question I have for you is what are you doing to avoid infidelity and divorce? Will you be added to the list of names of those who cheated, got busted and divorced? Are you going to inflict the same pain, shame and embarrassment as these gentlemen have on their partners and family? I hope your answer is an emphatic no.

Tips For Avoiding Infidelity

  • Stop pretending like it can never happen to you. The first and most important key to avoiding infidelity is acknowledging that you to can give into the temptation. If you are honest with yourself it will help you stay out of situations that might be too hard to control yourself in.
  • Make sure you are always in control. There are some men who find themselves out drinking with the boys at places that are ripe for committing adultery. Lots of booze and women dressed in bikinis will not help you avoid having an affair. Bite the bullet and either get the guys to go somewhere else or pass and go home to your wife and kids. There is no shame in being a loyal and faithful husband and father.
  • Don’t flirt and play with co-workers or friends. You need to be on-guard because you will be tested on a daily basis. You might get a friendly smile, a warm hello or an engaging conversation that takes your imagination down a path that is conducive to cheating. Please don’t believe the old saying “God gave me eyes to see so it’s ok to look at other women”. Also, thinking that “I can play around as long as I don’t go to far” will surely get you in trouble. It’s like driving a fast car toward a cliff and slamming on the brakes. One day you will go to far and end up over the cliff. The same applies to flirting.
  • Don’t pretend to be single or unhappily attached. Don’t false advertise that you are available. It’s unfair to your spouse and the person you are stringing along. What you are doing if you play this game is setting yourself up for an affair. If you are unhappy, work it out with your wife and on the shoulders or in the bed of a co-worker.

I hope you understand that although you might be tempted to have an affair, it’s not worth it and it’s wrong. I would encourage you to work on improving your marriage instead of hurting the family and friends you claim to care about.

If you are unhappy with your marriage or perhaps you are in a rut and need a change, there are resources available to help you spice things up or restore your relationship.

Finally, I know you are probably not a celebrity but please keep in mind that your marriage is more important than the celebrity marriages. Unfortunately, we expect celebrities to cheat and breakup. However, there are folks probably looking at your marriage and thinking “If they can make it so can we”. Don’t let your wife, family and others down. Please stay strong, resist the temptation, and find help in marriage, if you need it.

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