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Help Me! Married 13 Years And My Wife Had An Affair
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Wished there was help when you find out your wife had an affair after 13 years of marriage? This can be a painful and traumatic emotional time for anyone to face. Your wife ending the affair is only a step toward repairing the damage. Before you are really able to forgive and move forward considered your own feelings. We'll try to cover some considerations in this article.

First Consideration: You Aren't to Blame Your Wife Had an Affair

You are not to blame because your wife had an affair. Once the marriage is being ran more like a business then a marriage, certain needs quit being as important. Your wife might be reaching outside the marriage to fulfill some of these needs. In this case, it is your wife's fault for going outside the marriage.because it is something that needs to be worked on within the marriage (and still can be).

Second Consideration: Heal Your Emotional Injuries First

The first good sign after your wife had an affair is when she ends it. Although it shows she is sorry, forgiveness isn't a good idea this early. It may seem you forgiven her on the outside but are still hurting underneath masking your true feelings. This will lead to emotional baggage that can come out later. You want to heal from any emotional injuries first before you think about forgiveness.

Third Consideration: Finding Out Why Your Wife Had an Affair

Now that your emotionally healed you are able to find out why your wife had an affair after 13 years. Dealing with your emotions away from your wife you are now able to ask the right questions without getting upset or frustrated. This will allow you and your wife to discuss the things you needed to so you can figure out what it is you are forgiving her for. Get everything laid out and don't be afraid to push deeper for the right answers.

Final Consideration: Being Able to Forgive and Deciding if Your Marriage is Worth Saving.

Once you figured out why your wife had an affair it is time to forgive and move on. Bringing out how you both felt through out the your wife's affair can bring you both insight. It will allow you to see where you both took a wrong turn in the relationship in order to forgive. You will then be able to decide together if your marriage is worth saving and if it is how to go about it. There should be no unresolved issues or regrets.

Conclusion

After 13 years of marriage your wife had an affair and you need help? No help will do anything for you unless you can forgive yourself and heal your emotional injuries first. This will empower you to get with your wife and find out what caused the affair. Take what you learned and let it help you forgive and decide which course to proceed with your relationship.


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