The one question that many women in your situation don't really stop to consider is this: "how does your cheating make your husband feel?" It isn't an easy question for most women to answer. So, for the most part, they simply don't ask.

Men aren't the most vocal when it comes to expressing emotions. Rather than reading poetry or writing love songs they have a tendency to do things like check the air in the tires, buy kitty litter to carry around in the car in winter, and other things that leave women scratching their heads in wonder.

It's the Tarzan and Jane version of Mars and Venus to be sure but for men, actions speak volumes that words could never say. That is why they aren't likely to open up and tell you how they feel about the fact that you cheated.

Instead of doing that he's going to go to the gym and beat himself up a little harder. He's going to go all passive-aggressive and do all the things you've been begging/nagging (Jane/Tarzan) him to do for the past year or so in an "in your face" attempt to prove to you that he is the superior man.

He'll do all these things and so much more in order to make sure that he comes out on top in your eyes but the average man will never in a million years break down and let him see just how much it DESTROYED him to learn that you've been cheating.

This isn't to make YOU feel bad. That's not the goal of this at all. The goal is to let you know that while you may believe he's not hurting at all over the fact that you've cheated that couldn't be further from the truth.

He's just not letting you know HOW MUCH the fact that you cheated on him hurt him. It's a pride thing and right now your husband feels like his pride is all that he has left. It's better to let him have his pride right now than to push, poke, and prod only to find yourself in need of ways to get your ex back in the not so distant future.

If you get right down to it, besides hurt and angry, your husband would be hard pressed to put a word to the whirlwind of emotions he's feeling right now. He CAN'T tell you no matter how much he would like to tell you because he just doesn't have the capability of processing it all.

You don't have to know the ins and outs of what your husband is feeling to understand that he's hurting. But don't try to get inside his mind until you've watched all these great videos that may save your marriage and help you get your relationship back on track in the end.