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How To Survive An Affair - The Mistrust Issue
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How To Survive An Affair  -  The Mistrust Issue

Rebuilding a torn apart relationship that was all because you caught your spouse cheating may seem like impossible to do, but actually millions have done it and their marriage is great. One of the biggest problems is not being able to trust your partner again. To be able to do this, you have to recreate the trust all over again one step at a time.

Here are some steps to get you started on rebuilding your trust issues.

Step 1: Find what sets off the mistrust trigger: Look over the past week or so and try to think about what he or she has said or done that has made you think your partner was lying. Pinpoint exactly what things are making you doubt your partner. A good example, is he/she didn't call you all day while at work and they normally do which would cause some bad thoughts in your mind to flare up.

Step2: Increase Your Availability And Concern: If you are the one who cheated, then obviously you need to show your injured spouse that you are concerned more about getting their trust back. You can do this by being more available to them. For example, check in with them more often than you did before by calling them more during the day. Be sure to have your cell phone always near in case if they call you will always be there to answer it to secure the doubts they might be having of your where-abouts.

Step 3: Remove a mistrust trigger: If you are the spouse who cheated or the one who was cheated on, what can you do to get rid of one of those things you are having a problem with? For example, if the cheating spouse never has called to check on you much during the day, then make sure they start doing that. If you are the cheater and you always have been very personal with your stuff such as emails or your phone, then start opening up more and letting them look into your phone or your emails to show them you are not hiding anything.

Overall, just being there and being available to each other can rebuild those mistrust issues. Probably the biggest hurdle without a doubt is gaining back the trust with one another. Once you are able to do this, everything else is a lot more likely to fall into place such as the fun, intimacy, etc. This topic is covered a great deal more in the surviving an affair program.

Over time, you will learn new ways to communicate to one another and discover things that you never knew existed when rebuilding your relationship. Eventually, you will want to dedicate yourself to making sure that you are presenting yourself in a honest way to your spouse all the time. The mistrust issues will eventually disappear.

You can learn more about ways to survive an affair by following the steps in the program. Noone said surviving and affair would be easy, but with patience, cooperation from your partner, and a little professional help you will be well on your way.


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