Infidelity in a marriage can stem from many of things that are not seen and commonly overlooked in a relationship. When infidelity is first discovered, most of the time the question that arises, is why? Why has this happened to me and why did I not see this coming? If you have experienced this u-turn in your marriage, then chances are that your feeling betrayed and hopeless to name a few emotions. Lets try to figure out what went wrong.

Never voice the threat of separation in your marriage. This should be an unspoken rule between the two of you as a couple. Threatening separation or divorce can open doors that are most often not good, leaving the one making the threats more susceptible to a low resistance of control and most likely commit adultery. No matter how hard it is when in conflict not to say such words, one should refrain from making a statement such as this one.

Another common cause of a sour marriage, is not having independent interests. Truthfully, it does get kind of boring and makes a marriage stale if either of the partners have no interests of there own. Doing different things separate of each other can and will bring more conversation into the marriage. Thus, keeping the marriage exciting and alive by bringing new and exciting experiences to the table.

Go on a trip. And by saying this, its not meant by venturing on an out of state trip, but if that is what you fancy, then by all means then. KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid). Get out and have dinner together at a restaurant that you have never been at. Drive down a road in a part of your town that you have never driven down before. Take in the sites that you see and have a conversation about them. Sometimes it is the simple things that you need to do in order to help reconnecting yourselves together.

You can not just sit back and expect a a marriage to stay exciting on its own momentum. A Marriage takes hard work and work that needs to be done every day. Infidelity in a marriage can be repaired. But one needs to understand also that both partners need to work together and help make a mends. DO NOT put all the weight on your shoulders thinking that you must repair the marriage all by yourself. Infidelity in a marriage can make you stronger, if you are willing to put forth the effort and work on it.