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Is Emotional Infidelity Cheating?
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Is Emotional Infidelity Cheating?

Emotional infidelity is virtually always the first stopover on the road to an affair. I will just jump right out there and say that many people, me included, consider emotional infidelity to be cheating.

You might ask why I feel that way. To begin with, there is so much more to a relationship than the physical aspects. One of the most meaningful parts of a relationship is the deep emotional bond the two people share. For one partner to decide to form an emotional bond with another is cheating.

I know everyone will not agree with that. Well, there’s nothing physical going on, so what’s the harm? The harm is what happens to the people involved. A relationship is supposed to be about two people sharing their deepest feelings and thoughts with each other. There has to be a lot of trust to be able to do that.

When one partner starts to form a bond with another, they will begin to pull away from you. You go from being their best friend, the one person they tell everything to, to being a stranger in your own relationship. And that is devastating.

Being shut out is hard and painful to deal with. You may feel that you are doing something wrong and that the problem lies within you.

Emotional infidelity can be hard to pin down because it’s not as obvious as a sexual affair. Teasing one another and some mildly flirty behavior can be overlooked because nothing physical is happening, right?

Each of you has friends, he has his guy friends he likes to hang out with, you have your girlfriends , and both of you may have a friend or two of the opposite sex. You might confide a great deal about your everyday lives to them. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Being emotionally distant and displaying secretive behavior are the two big warning signs that your partner might be overly involved emotionally with someone else. Have they become secretive about phone calls, text messages, or their emails? Do they behave oddly and avoid your questions? This can also be a sign.

When one of you is forming an emotional bond with someone else it is a sure indication that the relationship is in need of some serious help. If you catch it early enough, the two of you can work together and try to work things through. Eventually, left on it’s own, the emotional affair will move on to physical cheating.

If one of you has formed inappropriate emotional bonds with someone else, you now have two areas to deal with. The underlying issues that caused the breakdown in the relationship to begin with, and the broken trust caused by emotional infidelity.


Street Talk

Having been down this path although long long ago, I agree with you on this one.

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  about 7 years ago

Thanks for the comment Shawn! That path isn't a good one, glad to be off it!

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  about 7 years ago
Joan S  

I see what you mean Lacey. It's a horrible feeling when your partner drifts away. And it can lead to infidelity. At any rate, it doesn't feel good.

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  about 7 years ago

No Joan, it doesn't feel good at all when your figure out you aren't their best friend any more.

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  about 7 years ago

I tend to agree with you, a marriage is a unity between two people that should not harbour any secrets, I will often tell my wife things that others might keep secret.. It is dangerous to have that mental fling, it turns so easily to infidelity... good article..

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  about 7 years ago

Thanks Rob. Honesty is so very important in a relationship.

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  about 7 years ago
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