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Is There A Safe Way To Tell Your Wife You Cheated
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If you fear your wife is going to kill if you tell her you had an affair, cheating on her was the wrong thing to do. If you were having problems in your marriage going outside of it wasn’t going to solve anything.

'Your wife might want to kill you but the worse she can do is divorce you (You will be lucky if she forgives you).'

Below are some ideas to help you lesson the blow of telling your wife about your extramarital affair cheating on her. What ever you end up doing your wife will not be the same person she was before so don’t get mad if she doesn’t respond right away.

"By having an affair cheating on your wife you destroyed all those years of trust you built-up between each other."

1. If you haven’t already, end the affair. Walk away and tell the other woman not to contact you anymore. You can also tell her you are going to recommit yourself to your wife and the marriage. 2. When you want to tell your wife about the affair cheating, take her somewhere you can be alone. If you have kids arrange for them to be left with an adult relative or friend you trust. You want somewhere you both can sit down and not be interrupted. This will set a serious mood for her to give you your full attention. 3. Before you tell your wife about the affair cheating on her, tell her how you were feeling about what was going on in the marriage before the affair. Don’t make-up things to add more drama, just be really honest about your feelings. Were you feeling trapped, ignored, or were your needs not being met? This is how you get her to expect what you have to say next. 4. Now with great care tell her you had the affair cheating. Let her know how the affair made you feel towards the end (that is important). Also let her know the affair is over and you no longer talk to the other person. Let her know you're unconditionally sorry the way things turned out and would like to try to fix it. Don’t be alarmed how she reacts to all this. Just gracefully accept things as they come 5. Finally give her a few days to absorb the affair cheating on her. She is going to be very upset with you and probably won’t want to look at you and that is alright. Then you can try to see if she wants to work things out with you or not. Offer to go to counseling and mean it. This will assure her a little you are serious about working things out.

That is about as safe as it gets telling your wife you cheated without having her wanting to kill you. It is a matter of thinking things out before you tell her; unlike the little thought you put into things before you had the affair cheating on your wife.


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