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Is There Ever A Good Reason To Confess An Affair Or Continue The Selfish Act?
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When having an affair on your partner, it is viral you understand the consequences that are involved and what may happen to your relationship. If your relationship means the world to you, then make the best decision. If not, I'd suggest there are a few things you should distinguish first, before making your move.

Why are you having an affair in the first place?

What is the main reason why you are having an affair? Are you doing it to get revenge on your partner, because they to cheated on you before? Are they currently cheating? If so, how do you know for sure? Are you having an affair because of something lacking in your relationship? Or, are you having an affair because you’re a cheater? Once you answer this question then, you will know what to do.

Be aware, everybody’s situation is different, so don’t base your actions on your friend’s, coworkers, and brother or co- workers. The only best reason to confess to your partner you are having an affair will basically be up to you. You will have to feel like you have to. You will have to want to confess to them about this dishonest activity.

If you don’t want to confess to your partner or spouse that you are cheating on them, there must be a very good reason why. However, don’t expect to get the best result as when you could’ve come clean and told them the truth. You know the saying, “the truth shall set you free”, and it will, because you will no longer have that burden sitting on your chest.

Think about this. I don’t care if you’re trying to get revenge or not. If you’re sneaking around, that means you will more than likely avoid all types of places, because you feel like you will get busted. You are ending up spending over half of your energy on not getting caught. How fun is that? It’s not fun at all.

And if you have children, it makes it even worst; because what’s going to happen when you get busted and your children is there to watch? It’s a terrible move. So, now you make the decision. Is there a possible good reason to confess your affair? I think so.

Final thoughts on the subject

Having an affair is not good for any relationship, especially out of revenge. If you really want to save your relationship, then it’s time to confess and come clean.


Street Talk

Tough call. I agree with Kevin, 21 years and happy. If I were to be on the receiving end, I do not think I would want to know.

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  about 8 years ago

Cheating and getting caught cheating are both very very bad things. I've been on both sides and it hurts everyone involved. It's best to be honest it's hard but the right thing. PEACE!✌

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  about 8 years ago

Been married to a wonderful lady for 41 years. No way I would jeopardize that...

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  about 8 years ago
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