If you are suffering from your spouse having an affair, and now you are not sure if they are lying to you again, or if they are actually telling the truth, then maybe this will help you.  It is not at all unusual to be unsure in being able to tell if what your spouse is telling you is the truth or just more lies. 

Don't feel insure, or belittle yourself because your spouse did such a good job of lying and pulling the wool over your eyes.  You just got scammed by the one person that you felt you could trust above anyone else. 

It is only natural that you want to be able to trust your spouse again, that you want to be able to believe that when they tell you that the affair is over, that you can really trust that they are telling you the truth.

You want to be able to avoid falling into the same old situation of being lie to that you just found yourself in.  You want to avoid getting hurt again, this is completely understandable.  Who wants to be hurt by the person that they love so much, and that they shared marriage vows with to love, honor, cherish and of course trust (I promise to be true to you)  is included in that too. 

This is not your fault, but you and your spouse need to seriously examine your marriage, to find out where it is so weak, that your spouse decided they needed to go outside your home to be with someone other than you.  This can be a beginning of the process to rebuild your marriage, your trust and your love for one another.

You will both have to work at this, and take it one step at a time.  If you both have the desire to stay together because you both love one another very much, then you should have the stamina and determination to stick with the process to get things put back together.  You will find that your marriage and your love and trust is greater than you would have ever imagined, and more than it had ever been.

No one can promise you  that your spouse is not lying to you now, or that they will not lie to you again in the future. 

You will both have to work on the lying and trust issue together.  It is not going to be easy for you to get over, and your spouse needs to understand this.  Your spouse needs to become transparent in their actions and their behavior.  They have to become more consistent in their behavior, so that you will be able to become more comfortable and start rebuilding the bond of trust again.

Your spouse needs to know what it is that they are doing that causes you to become uncomfortable and to have doubts that they are telling you the truth.  If they are not aware of what they are doing that looks suspicious to you, then how can they correct it.  A few examples could be:

• They are on the computer and click off of the page when you come into the room
• They come home late, and failed to call and let you know why
• They click off on cell phone calls and will not tell you who was calling

Just make them aware of the things that are causing you fear and doubts about their honesty, so that you will feel that your spouse is not lying to you, but telling you the truth.

You both want to rebuild your marriage, trust and love, and you will have to start by being totally honest with one another, in all of your fears, doubts and thoughts. To learn more and get expert help and advice, please click here.