Getting the news your spouse has cheated on you does not make any sense. You may wish there isn’t any infidelity in a marriage but it happens. What is needed now is to take what doesn’t make sense and have it make sense. The only way to do that is to survive infidelity in a marriage.

Before you learned your spouse had his/her affair, your marriage was a source of fulfillment in your life. After infidelity in a marriage you are disappointed and feel a big hole in your life. You have lost your bearing and desperately need direction back in your life.

The first thing you do is try to talk about it with your spouse. He/she tries to tell you but you either become too hurt to go on or too angry to do any good. Nothing is getting done. After three maybe six weeks you still have not gotten anywhere. You feel this is because of your inability to get past the affair.

You may feel alone at this point but others have been in your position. What they did caused such a revelation in their marriage it actually made it stronger and eliminated the chance of infidelity in a marriage from happening again. If you would be interested in what to do than read more.

Before I tell you what to do with your infidelity in a marriage I have to tell you it won’t be easy. You will have to do a lot of work both on yourself and the marriage to make it work out. If you don’t think your marriage is worth that then I understand if you don’t keep going.

This is something you can do alone or it is something you can get your spouse involved in. It will involve working on each other firstly so you can work on the infidelity in a marriage secondly. That means you may feel lost and ineffective now but before you are ready to change things that allowed the affair to take place, you will have your bearings straight and you will be that strong person again.

Your spouse will learn he/she is able to discuss what it was. You know why he/she thought going outside the marriage for a little emotional satisfaction was the only thing left to do. Your spouse will be learn also he/she can talk to you without you getting upset now. Soon you will learn how infidelity in marriage happened and how to prevent it from happening again.

I am Roy Holtz and I wrote "Making Sense of Infidelity in a Marriage" as a way to get the answers I found to work. I have a Blog called "Dealing With Infidelity in Marriage" if you are interested in learning more.