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Once A Cheater Always A Cheater - Destined To Keep Cheating In A Relationship
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Once a cheater always a cheater is easy to say but is not always true. Some guys and gals cheating in a relationship can change depending on why in the relationship cheating occurred.

In this article you will learn a little about why cheating sometimes happens. You will also be shown how coping, healing, and moving on either together or separately will help you get past the cheating. If done right you can improve how you handle your relationships in marriage and abroad.

Why Cheating Sometimes Happens

Most marriages start out being happy. Somewhere between taking the kids to soccer practice and meeting financial needs, cheating in a relationship can threaten that happiness.

You can be doing everything right but if your partner is feeling emotional dissatisfaction in the relationship, cheating becomes a risk. Your partner might say, "Once a cheater always a cheater" about others and still wind up cheating just to meet those emotional needs. It may start out platonic but turn into an emotional affair that can get physical if not recognized and handled in time.

What results is both partners end up affected by the affair. The betrayed spouse is too traumatized by what happens and loses their bearings in life along with the self-worth and confidence. The cheating spouse who may try to explain how he or she felt before and after the affair but finds this impossible. That is because the betrayed spouse is too emotionally hurt to listen without becoming too upset to go on.

Coping, Healing and Moving On To Fidelity and Happiness

What others have been doing to get past the emotional pain of the affair is coping, healing, and moving on either together or separately.

First step to do after finding out about cheating in the a relationship, the betrayed spouse needs to think about his or her own well being. Working on regaining his or her self-worth and confidence will create a starting place for new direction so coping with the affair becomes possible. The cheating spouses help here in anyway can be a good start to start rebuilding a little trust in the relationship cheating destroyed.

In healing, "once a cheater always a cheater" can be dis-proven. The cheating spouse can tell how he or she felt before and after cheating in a relationship. The betrayed spouse will be strong enough to listen without becoming upset. Both spouses can tell every little thing and get it out in the open. Finding out if in their relationship cheating was all emotional deviation or if it can be worked on.

Finally in the moving on phase with everything out in the open decisions about the marriage can be made. Is the marriage worth it or not can finally be decided. If it is or isn't won't matter here because what you learned through the whole ordeal of coping, healing and moving on is how to create an enviroment to promote fidelity and happiness in the future.

Conclusion

Once a cheater always a-cheater isn't always the case when cheating in a relationship happens. In some relationship cheating is a matter of emotional deviation and can be worked on. Finding out is easy using a system of coping, healing, and moving on. The real beauty after it is said and done is ending up with a better relationship in the end.


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