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Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater Or Can A Lying Leopard Change His Fickle Spots?
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Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater Or Can A Lying Leopard Change His Fickle Spots?

Jacqueline Bains Beems split from her husband of three years in July. The previous month the woman and her husband had a public altercation that involved the police. Ms. Beems herself was arrested for assault against this husband in February of 2010. If the name of the lady in question is not familiar to you, perhaps her soon to be ex- husband's name will be. The man in question is legendary former wrestler, Ric Flair and Ms. Beems is his fourth wife. The question is simple: should Ms. Beems be so surprised by the demise of her marriage and really, should anyone?

According to papers that Beems filed, Flair was unfaithful during the entire duration of the marriage which led to humiliation and embarrassment. It would look like the marriage wasn't really all that solid to begin with- the pair had only been married a year or less when the need for police involvement arose. Obviously when someone has been married more than one or two times the problem is not always with the other party.

Everyone knows the issue very well. Marriage seems to be a goal that is not really natural for certain people. Zsa Zsa Gabor was married eight times, as was Elizabeth Taylor. Even among non-celebrities, the marriage go round still clunks and limps along, often stopping because of infidelity. Affairs, whether they are emotional or make it to the physical stage destroy more than a few marriages every year. Even a marriage that has lasted decades can be destroyed by a momentary indiscretion.

So, the question again is can a cheater ever be trusted? A marriage without any trust at all is not worth fighting for, that much is given. Who wants to always be suspicious of their mate and who wants to be the person that is interrogated for being fifteen minutes late because of that cocktail waitress they winked at two years ago? There is no single answer to any of these questions since every marriage is different. Every person has a different line in the sand that they draw with their partner. Obviously Ms. Beems had had enough of serial cheating with Ric Flair several months ago. It is embarrassing to be cheated on, humiliating and sad. Marriage is supposed to be a respected institution, not something that is endured until something better comes along. Vows are supposed to mean something but often they just mean "for now" rather than 'til death.


Street Talk

William6  

Trust takes a long time to build and only a few seconds to destroy. Once seeds of doubt have been planted, the mistrust will always remain. Infidelity, cheating, dishonesty, extramarital affairs- just words people use about a relationship gone bad.

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  about 7 years ago

Hi Amie, Nicely done. This is an epic article.

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  about 7 years ago

Cheaters cheat on their relationships because something is missing in their relationshipS... I am sure that if they cheated on you that means that they have also done this with their other relationships. Cheaters are looking for something in the relationship that they are not getting so they go out looking for it else where. Instead of breaking up and being a grown up about it all they keep their relationship going so that they have something to fall back on when they dont find what they are looking for. They have no idea what it even is that they are "missing" yet they continue to take others down with them in their attempt to find that elusive missing thing. I dont think that anyone who cheats does it to "hurt" the person that they are with... I think that they do it because they really think that out there somewhere is something that they are missing out on and they are looking for it even if they are committed at the time. They think that they will find it and all the while they probably have the most amazing thing right in front of them and they have NO CLUE... until they loose it and then that person becomes the "elusive missing item" they are now looking for again...

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  about 7 years ago

Nicely written. And honestly No I dont think a leopard can change their fickle spots. They are cheating because they are looking for something that their mate isnt givint to them...something that NO ONE is EVER going to be able to give them because they have NO idea what it is themselves. 99% of the time (in MY opinion at least) someone cheats it is to prove that they "still got it" and have to complete the act to prove it completely- to themselves.

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  about 7 years ago

Meh, in this case it is all about feeling entitled. People built Flair up until he was the insufferable bore that he was supposed to portray on TV.

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  about 7 years ago
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