For those who have been burned by infidelity in the past and have had numerous bad experiences, they mistakenly consider realationships ans cheating are normal. Actually, for the record, this is a false assumption. Many people have fought against temptation and have never, and would never, cheat on their spouse or partner. If you're entertaining the false idea that of what a relationship is like based on previous experiences, keep reading.

Whether we like it or not, many people believe, everything in life comes to us as a result of the decisions and choices we make. This doesn't mean, please note,that when things go wrong we're to blame, it just means one thing leads into another and by how we choose and decide will have an influence on the outcome of things.

If bad relationships are all you seem to experience, you have to take a look at yourself and find out why you settle for flawed people who can not make a full commitment to your relationship. What are you doing that attracts the wrong "type" of partner to you?

Rather then repeat old habits and behavior continuosly, and getting the dismal reults of repeating that behavior, figure out just what you do to bring the wrong person into your life. Perhaps you unconciously sabotage yourself because you feel you don't deserve love and happiness and you think the relationship won't work out for you.

If this is your pattern, you should really invest some time and seek out councelling, so that you change your expectations and behavior. Settling for a relationship where your shown no respect or love, and with someone who isn't dependable, is not right. You know you deserve better than that, right?

Don't settle for a realationship that is abusive and with a partner you just can't trust. Cheating is not right in a relationship, it never has been, and never will be.

A proffesional therapist will work with you to determine why in relationships you alloow self destructive behavior. Getting to the root cause of your issues will help determine a way to correct them and move on free of them.

Admitting our problems and seeking help is never an easy task, but if you find yourself always attracting bad relationships or getting hooked up with people who always let you down, the benifits of doing a little bit of soul searching and making some changes in your lifestyle far out weigh asking a counselor for help.

Seeking out someone who will get you going in the right direction and help you see your blind spots in relationship choices is critical. Someone who isn't judgemental and is on your side to help you face, and correct, your issues so you can find the love and happiness you desire.

You can experience a great loving and respectful relationship, no matter who you are or what your past relationships were like. You can break the cycle because you now understand that relationships and cheating just don't mix.