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Surviving An Affair - Dealing With The Mental Images
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Surviving An Affair  -  Dealing With The Mental Images

When you first learn of your spouse cheating on you, the betrayal, the frustration, the anger, and the images all play through your mind at the same time. Probably the worst and the most common problem that the victim faces is the images of the cheater with the other person. This image alone makes all the other feelings come up all over again and again. Thankfully, there are ways to deal with these terrible images in surviving an affair

Step 1: Find a Safe, Quiet, and Private Place

No matter where this place is, find a place where you can relax and get away from everything whether it be in your home or your car or a walk down the street. Next, plan the time that you want to go to this place to allow time for yourself to vent the feelings and the images. At first, this may seem like a dumb thing to do, but this allows you to take control of at least part of what you are going through. Actually, the more you think about it the more you can come to terms with what has happened and it will become easier to get over after time.

Step 2: Invite the Images In

Now that you are at your safe, private place, let the images go through your mind that have been taking over your life lately. You may ask "how is this going to help by bringing in the images that has made me feel so terrible lately?" This helps because you are voluntarily now letting the images come in instead of letting the images take over at inopportune times. You are in control instead of the images themself.

Step 3: Change the Image

Once you have the image clear in your mind, you can actually edit it like you would a video or picture on a computer. One of the most common ways of editing the images is by playing the pictures backwards like pushing the rewind button on a vcr. Most people who has been through an affair find this helpful and starting to feel better. If this does not work, simply do not do it.

If this is working for you and making you feel somewhat better, then try doing it faster. Doing this over and over will make your mind change. It might not make sense now, but it will. This is not a entire solution to the problem of course. In the Getting Over an Affair Program, there are much more things to do and learn. All these steps help in overpowering the problem of the affair images coming up in your mind all the time which ultimately gives you peace in the end.

The thoughts and pictures that play in your mind are all connected to feelings. This is exactly why when the pictures or movie is replayed in your mind it feels like someone knocking the breath out of you. The Surviving An Affair Course helps deal with the awful feeling that you think will never go away so that you can find joy and peace again.


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