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So, the unimaginable has happened. You suspect or have caught your spouse in the act of having an affair. Your first question is probably " Is it even possible to make it through such a gut wrenching crisis?" The great news is surviving an affair is indeed not just a dream. Actually, surviving an affair can be the best thing you and your husband has ever done and here is why.

The want or the thought of the need to going back to the way it was before all the chaos happened is actually not what you really need! In truth, your marriage must have never been the greatest or the way it should of been in the first place because if it was, all of this wouldn't have happened in the first place right?

First, if you are blaming yourself you are wrong! It is pretty much fact that is is never the victim's fault in this matter. The spouse that cheated is the one to blame and it was his/her fault no doubt. There is never an excuse for someone to cheat and that includes even revenge, but that is a whole new topic in itself so we will not go there today.

There is perhaps one thing though that might have made the scenario much more less likely to happen and that is if the state of the marriage or relationship was the best to begin with then it probably would have ever happened. Again this is not entirely your fault either. It takes two in a relationship and and those two are responsible with how the relationship works.

Anyway, knowing that your marriage now was not as good as it could be, why would you want to go back to the way it was? If you do this then isn't it likely the whole mess will happen all over again? Yes, it is actually very likely it will happen again so the truth is you do not want to go back to the way things were.

Now, you are probably thinking "but we had some real good times" and yes that is hopefully very true or you would of never got married correct? The point is, to think about how things were and how all those wonderful moments want to be found again is actually only going back to what may have been the start on the long wrong road to the affair in the first place. I hope you see my point and actually that point is backed up by a Dr. Frank Gunzburg who has been solving affair problems for over 20 years.

The real truth is in order to have the best possible chance of surviving an affair is to start new and fresh. This may sound stupid now, but with time and professional help on how to survive an affair, the understanding will come. Visit the Surviving An Affair Course for more info.


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Affair, we understand affair? The level of tolerance in a pair is greater when we realize that we live with a person, not our property, freedom of thought. It is difficult to separate sex from emotion because most of the time are united if we get the affair will not be a problem.

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