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The Emotional Affair Recovery Process - 3 Bad Traits That The Cheating Spouse Must Get Rid Of
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The Emotional Affair Recovery Process  -  3 Bad Traits That The Cheating Spouse Must Get Rid Of

Getting a hold of the negative feelings, emotions, thoughts and visions that consume you is where recovering from an affair usually starts. It goes without saying that your spouse must put the affair to rest. Emotional affair recovery(the kind of affair where no sex has taken place) is the main focus of this article. The three points below, are bad traits that must be stopped by your spouse, or else the emotional affair may be currently ongoing.

I) Keeping Secrets and Being Less Than Honest With You

Your spouse will be treading extremely carefully. Meaning, being discreet with the affair and concealing the length of time they are devoting to the paramour. No matter the type of affair, there is usually a lot of secrecy involved. Also they try to keep things under wraps as long as they can. Before any real emotional connection develops, your spouse may innocently speak about the individual from time to time. Secrecy in a marriage of this kind is pretty much poison and makes emotional affair recovery an uphill battle for the victim.

II) You Are No Longer The First One Your Spouse Shares Details or Connects With

While an emotional affair in a marriage is pretty bad, at least the affair is not on a sexual level. Of course, it could become sexual between your spouse and the outside individual in due course if your spouse continues to make time for them. Needless to say that your spouse's loyalty to you is currently diminishing because the other person is a priority. In an ideal situation, you would be your spouse's priority and constant focus.

III) Your Spouse is in Constant Defense of His/Her “Friend”

Undermining your efforts to surviving an emotional affair, is when your spouse starts devaluing your marriage by defending this “friend” of the opposite sex in any discussion or argument. However you have known about this affair, it is not out of the ordinary for your spouse to cast blame on you. For example, by accusing you of invading their personal privacy or spying. Obviously, your spouse is looking to advance the emotional affair with the paramour by finding reasons to distance himself/herself from you. A deceptive tactic that will hopefully be retired for good.

- The Pathway To Emotional Affair Recovery -

Healthy, constructive communication between you and your spouse, plays an invaluable part in helping to get your marriage back to happier times. Although this takes time, it is a requirement for recovering from an emotional affair. Trusting after an emotional affair will come with time.

Transparency in your marriage must play a key role going forward. You and your spouse both have to work out the kinks in your marriage such as, discussing marital boundaries, and coming to a compromise on what kind of communication is permitted with individuals of the opposite sex and where the limits lie. It will not be an easy process, but your spouse needs to understand what you are going through and you both need to chart the way forward.


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