You and your spouse are having problems in your marriage. He has been cheating on you. You don't know how long this has been going on, and you are not even sure if it is over. Of course you still love your husband, and he loves you. What you both will have to do now, is to see if you want to save your marriage, or if you want to end it.

Unfortunately, today there are way too many marriages that are ending in divorce. Things can go great in a marriage for many years, you both are extremely happy, but then somewhere along the line, something changes, or something happens. You start to develop differences of opinion, and you both seem to have become too stubborn to even attempt to talk it over, or meet in the middle.

When you start having a lot of arguments, because you cannot seem to agree on anything, then any little thing that either of you do, will begin to grate on the other. This will cause even more disagreements and conflicts. It doesn't take much to get into an argument.

This type of situation can easily push a person into having an affair.

It seems impossible to find any peace or love at home, because you both are arguing so much, that love and understanding, is just not something that is going to be found in your marriage right now. So now, you both have to face the fact that a huge mistake has been made.

You both have decided that it was a mistake, and if you want to save your marriage, and avoid divorce, then you are both going to have to work together to get things straightened out. Communicate with one another on a more friendly basis then you have been, be nice to each other, rather than seeing who can disagree with the other the most, and cause more conflict, problems and pain.

Your spouse was wrong in having an affair, it was not your fault, and they are going to have to admit their guilt and wrong doing, but if you both want to save you marriage, you need to start really listening to each other.

Be more understanding and reasonable with each other. Fighting will get you absolutely no where, except rather than moving forward to save your marriage, it will move you in the opposite direction, towards destroying it.

If you both still really love one another and have the desire to save your marriage, and avoid divorce, then you both need to stop, and assess you situation. You both need to think about and discuss what your differences are, what problems you have been having, and why you have been having these problems. When you both figure this out, you will then know what you need to do in order to start resolving your problems.