In my article, You Control Your Destiny, I touched on this area, where we have to take a stance and make decisions, albeit right or wrong.

You appraised the situation, did not sit on the fence and waver, decided and jumped in at the deep end. You took a stance. However what if that decision was not the right one, what if you took the wrong fork on the road? How do you deal with this?

My article is to talk about how we deal with the mistakes and learn from them to be better human beings. All of us make mistakes both big and small, how we deal with them is what matters.

People who have a great sense of self are the ones who will readily agree that they made a mistake and not blame others for his/her decision and mask this flaw. The first step in our learning process is to admit that we are human and we will make mistakes.

Look at where you went wrong in your decision. You have to look back to move forward, as you do not want to fall down the same cliff. Look at it as a growth opportunity, not as a mistake, or that you are a failure.

They say mistakes are the stepping stones to success. So remember once we take onus of your mistake and admit we will make darn sure that it never occurs again. So if you want to get ahead admit it was your decision.

In the Alcoholic Anonymous program the first step in their recovery from addiction is the admittance to the alcoholism. Once they admit that they have the problem, then recovery is a matter of time.

If your mistake has caused any pain or hurt to others, then meet with the people learn and hear how they were impacted. Feel their pain and be truly remorseful. If you are being superficial then the chances of you falling into the same trap is inevitable. When you feel the others pain I can assure you, you will never be the same again and you will truly be sorry and that will change your life forever.

After the apology start the process of healing by trying to right the wrong. It may not be possible, however if it is possible then do so.

Always put yourself in the others shoes and ask yourself the question, How would I feel if this was done to me? If you feel good about it then go ahead with your plan, if you feel lousy about your decision then see how you can change it to meet everyone's needs. Walk in their shoes.

People have different mental makeups. If you are the determined to succeed in spite of all the failures you have experienced, your determination in itself will help you achieve your goal as you have learnt along the way to avoid obstacles.

If you are person that gives up after a mistake, the you will never learn and always shy away from doing anything, you will not see what lies ahead of the obstacle. Learn

to have a greater self esteem and know that all successes were a result of previous failures.Achievement or success is never given to anyone on a platter all work hard and their determination to achieve success is the result you see today.

Many people in the limelight has horrific experiences in the past. If you ask them, to go and change anything, would they go back and do that? I would say ninety nine percent would say they have no regrets because their past has shaped their present. They learnt from their experiences.

So why are we afraid of Failure? If failure can be our opportunity to change and shape our destiny. We should look at failure and our mistakes as a growth process. We are, our worst critics, so let us be kind to all around and in particular to ourselves as criticism and negativity shuns our growth in attaining our growth and uplifting our spirit.

So the moral of this is never let failure impede your progress,in fact we should learn from our failures.