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10 Things Not To Say To A Guy
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If you want to have a closer, more intimate relationship, keep in mind this advice of 10 things not to say to guy. There are certain subjects that make men very uncomfortable and you could even say they hate when these conversations come up.

A lot of the items here are things you may bring up without even realizing it. If you have been guilty of saying any of these things, you will now find out why your fella may have immediately clammed up, had a look of sheer terror on his face, or made it very clear to you that he’d rather be anywhere else at that moment.

Here is the list in no particular order:

1. “It's up to can spend time with me or your friends”

This kind of comment is kind of a lose-lose situation for your man. On one hand, he might really want to go out with the boys and relax. He also realizes that if he tells you that, he’ll be in big trouble with you and there may be hurt feelings or tears, both of which he wants to avoid.

2. “What are you thinking?”

Sorry to disappoint you, but he is probably thinking about how good a big plate of nachos would taste right now. Remember that men like to keep things as simple as possible and don’t usually spend every waking moment thinking about their relationship. This is especially true if they’ve been in a relationship for a long period of time.

3. “It's not a big deal. There will be another Superbowl next year. It's only a game.”

This type of comment diminishes whatever sport or activity your man really cares about. It might just be a game to you, but to him, it means a lot more. Better to just pass on comments that make light of his passions or interests.

4. “Let's just be friends”

In most cases, this will really disappoint a man. If he’s been showing interest in you, then he usually wants more than a friendship.

5. “I saw the way you were looking at her...”

Men respond to visual stimulation and that’s just the way they are wired. Yes, he may look at other women, but unless he starts drooling or shoves you out of the way to talk to another lady, don’t accuse your guy of anything. If he is obnoxious or uncaring of your feelings by always checking out other women or making comments you feel uncomfortable with, you may want to re-think the relationship.

6. “So...can we define this relationship? What are we doing here?”

When you start out with these types of comments, your man will probably not really know how to respond to the question. He may not know where the relationship is going at this point, and by you asking, he may feel pressure to make a commitment when he’s not ready.

7. “Where were you? What took you so long? Who just called/texted you?”

These types of comments scream insecurity on your part. They also indicate that you do not and will not trust him, even if he hasn’t given you any reason not to. Possessiveness, jealousy and insecurity are generally not traits a man is looking for in a committed relationship.

8. “We need to talk. I've got something to tell you.”

This is a statement that can strike terror in even the toughest of men. He has no idea what you’re about to say and even for just a moment there, his mind is racing with all kinds of horrible possibilities as to what you are about to tell him.

9. “Do you think I'm pretty? Do I look fat? Do you love me? Don't I matter to you at all? You didn't even notice my hair...”

These types of remarks really say insecure and needy. It’s almost like you need constant validation from your honey to feel confident in yourself. What if he said you DO look fat those pants? These are loaded questions and will put any man in the hot seat, which is never where he wants to be.

10. “Nothing is wrong. It just doesn't matter. Never mind. Whatever! Just forget it. Just do whatever you want like always do...”

Any of these types of comments really drive your man crazy. He knows that if you are acting like something is wrong and he asks you what is wrong, when you respond with, “Nothing,” then something is drastically wrong! Seriously, he has no clue as to what is wrong with you unless you tell him. This is probably one of the biggest things not to say to a guy. Just be honest and let him know what the problem is so you can both try to resolve the issue and move forward from there. By hanging on to your disappoint, anger, or whatever it is, you aren’t doing either one of you any favors. Did I mention it drives him crazy?

There are certainly better ways of trying to have a conversation with your sweetheart. When you come across as needy, fishing for compliments, insecure, accusatory, demanding, or back him into a corner so that he cannot win no matter what his answer, these types of comments will all lead to him clamming up or just wanting to remove himself from this particular place in time immediately if not sooner.

A better plan is to learn how to have more effective communications and speak in a way he can better relate to you without feeling like he'll be in big trouble with his answers.

Remember that if you don't want to hear an honest answer to a question, maybe it's better not to ask at this specific time. If you are feeling some distance between your or just that something isn't quite right, you may want to hold off on some of these conversation starters until a later time. Sometimes by forcing a conversation when there are already some problems brewing, will just make matters worse.

Learn to watch for the clues he is sending out before you bring up a delicate subject matter and by all means, keep in mind the 10 things not to say to a guy.

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