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Commitment Issues In Men - Dangers Of Using Ultimatums
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Commitment Issues In Men  -  Dangers Of Using Ultimatums

It is very common, among women who have been waiting to be proposed marriage for a long period of time, having commitment issues with their partner, to think that the best solution is to present their boyfriend an ultimatum concerning the relationship. If the woman wants badly to be engaged to their boyfriend waiting can lead to desperation. And the most common consequence of desperation can be the need to give an ultimatum. However, this attitude has some serious drawbacks that we will analyze in the rest of this article.

Pressure can lead to the end of the relationship

What most women don't realize is that this type of behaviour often results in the end of the relationship. Nobody likes to receive an ultimatum and of course men don't like to receive an ultimatum from their girlfriend regarding marriage.

If men fail to commit, they often have reasons that they cannot explain to delay their decision to propose. There are certain things they perceive in their girlfriend that don't allow them to feel that she is the women to spend the rest of his life with.

With an ultimatum, he is forced to make a decision in that moment, and his feelings would cause his decision would probably be to end the relationship.

Not be prepared to listen to a "never"

If, despite this, the woman decides to use an ultimatum, she should be prepared to pack her bags and live if the answer to the "Now or Never" question is what she was not expecting and didn't want to hear: "Never".

Staying in a relationship after he has said he would never commit to her, will loose all her credibility, because it would mean that the ultimatum was not real.

How can he take you seriously if you asked him the most important question of your life and that question was not authentic because you gave two chance: Now or Never, he answered never, but you continued with him, so never was not really never.

Conclusion

If somebody wants to use an ultimatum, she should be prepared to act in consequence after hearing the truth. It is completely acceptable to use this technique to make him commit if she is really prepared to receive the negative answer.

If she does not want to spend more time with somebody who seems will never propose marriage to her, why should she wait , and what for ? The best alternative is to stop the relationship immediately as it will have no future.


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Meredith  

This is so true. Ultimatums are a very tricky area.

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