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Dating A Commitment Phobe Man
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Often when you date a commitment phobe, you are unsure where you stand. You don't know how he feels. When you are together it seems so great. The connection and chemistry feels so right. It's the time when you are apart that your head spins.

Commitment phobic men leave you wondering when you are apart. Sure he contacts you or may stay in touch, but there is something that is missing. You just don't feel a part of his life completely. You feel like he isn't letting you in his heart.

When dating a commitment phobe, you can't push him. To do so only pushes him away. If you ask where you stand he is going to tap dance around the subject. Don't waste your time with words on this man. Words don't reach him.

Commitment phobic men fear the loss of their freedom and they fear it a lot. The more questions you ask, the more you push, the more he feels this fear. Pushing him threatens his freedom in the worst of ways. If you are dating this commitment phobe, stop with the questions now.

Men who fear commitment have to be reached on a deeper level. The fear of losing you has to become greater than that fear of losing his freedom. He needs to feel a deep emotional attraction to you to commit. Questions and pushing and clinging tighter will not create that attraction.

You have to make him feel safe. Making him feel safe takes time. It is not done with words but with actions. Now this does not mean being a doormat. Quite the opposite.

He needs to know that your entire universe does not revolve around him. He needs to know that he isn't responsible for your happiness. In other words, you need to have your own life. This way he does feel safe. He doesn't fear you will fall apart if he screws up. The result, he respects you more and screws up less.

Dating a commitment phobic man requires a unique kind of woman, one that is patient, firm, and knows how to build that deep emotional attraction. That attachment that the commitment phobic man learns that he doesn't want to live without.


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I can't help but to comment..i guess commitment phobic guys have some right to pull away!!!with respect to woman, some woman are pretty much indecisive too and don't you think infidelity and more cases of unsuccessful relationship will be less because the man won't settle for something worth more than their freedom!!!I think it's a good balance between females who just marry or be with someone for the sake of security..I really think commitment is something that should be deeply feel..Otherwise it will be a vicious cycle..It's really difficult to keep the music playing in a relationship but i think these commitment phobic man are just being realistic and sensitive..I think inside they are genuine! Let me know your thoughts maybe i'm wrong!maybe not..---womanoftoday

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  about 2 years ago

Great article. I am a commitment phobe man and I totally agree. Please stop asking me questions. The more you ask, the more I don't want to talk about it. You definitely hit the nail on the head. "you need to have your own life" - YES

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  about 3 years ago
gloria  

Run from these men! Save yourself before you turn into a mad women, which there disruptive insensitive behaviors push you there because they don't know how to love. Grow up men and man up and be a man and stop playing mind games and remove yourself from society to get help! Only than return back to society!

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  about 3 years ago
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