Marriage usually begins on a high note with a lot of excitement, optimism and with overflowing love and passion. This enthusiasm is shared by the couple as they embark on a new life ahead. The journey begins on their wedding day, in finding the perfect church, making the guest list, planning for the decorations and even arguing on whether to keep the wedding simple or elaborate - All in the hopes of making that magical moment last for a lifetime. Then again, does it really last a lifetime? or a more relevant question would be, can it last a lifetime?

At the outset, keeping yourself happily in love with your partner is easy. But as soon as you become accustomed to “marriage” things become routinary maybe sometimes even out-and-out boring. Not only that, you might also become consumed with all your responsibilities, with work and in taking care of the house that you fail to notice that your marriage is slowly slipping away. What is even more frightening is waking up one day realizing, you have fallen out of love.

So, how is it possible to stay in a relationship that no longer makes you happy? If it happens, what should you do?

Well, I know it sounds cliché but there is no better way to say it, “prevention is better than a cure”. Save your marriage before it winds up in the courtroom. When you feel as if you have already fallen out of love in marriage, always think about what made you decide to get married in the first place and understand that this is part of what you have signed up for. You and your partner should both make a decision to make things work in any way possible. Giving-up is never an option. Do you remember your vow? "…For better or for worse…"

When you are falling out of love, the key to keeping the spark alive is by being different, by doing the things that your partner does not suspect. And by being unpredictable, you keep your partner guessing, wondering and always asking for more.

Even when you have been married for decades, there still are countless ways that you can surprise your spouse; leaving a note inside their wallet, for example. Although, it would be easier to send a text message, making a short and simple love note makes it seem as if you exerted a little more effort in making him or her happy. You can go on dates, check-in at a hotel, even when your home is close by, go joyriding or fishing, whatever your crazy mind can think of. These “little” things can have a substantial effect in the success of your marriage.

It is ok to work extra hard to find money. It is ok to have a competitive career. Just as long as you do not lose sight on the things that truly matter. Do not allow yourself to be eaten up by work and lose your relationships in the process because if this happens, all your hard work will be for nothing.