It’s very common for women to try and get their man to commit in a pushy fashion. More times than not, these types of women are known for their bold and sometimes out-spoken personalities. As we all know, not all women would think of themselves as “bold” and “out-spoken” and that leaves those wondering what they have to do to get a man to commit.

If you consider yourself on the meek and mild side, but still feel the need to get your man to commit – there are a few things you can do to get him to commit without making it obvious! Yes, that’s right – we are going to show you a few ways that you can secretly get him to commit!

Here we go…

1. Refrain From Ultimatums: If you are trying to get him to commit and consider yourself to be more of a shy woman, you probably aren’t planning on presenting him with an ultimatum. But, if you have been consulting friends and family for relationship advice, someone might have suggested giving him an ultimatum.

Common commitment ultimatums usually go something like this, “If you can’t commit to me, I am going to have to move on.” Whatever you do, do not go down this road. More times than not, trying to get him to commit via an ultimatum will have him running the opposite way – and running fast!

2. Embrace His Family: Another great way to get him to commit without being blatant about it is by embracing his family. Most men find it very attractive when the woman they’re dating gets along well with their family. Family are the first relationships we create and foster as we grow up, and because of that, they tend to be the relationships that influence us the most. Don’t you value what your family has to say about the men you choose to date and get into relationships with?

With this being said, his family members may not be anything like your best friends or the type of people that you see yourself hanging out with all day, every day. That’s okay. You just need to be able to make it appear as if you really want to get to know them and spend time with them to you man. Suggest getting together with his family when the two of you are alone. Take the initiative and plan a family get-together for the first time. Your man will recognize the effort you are making to embrace his family and will feel more inclined to commit to you for the long-term.

3. Harness Your Independent Spirit: Men also find it very attractive when women possess an independent spirit. Even if you’re not independent, it’s time to create the illusion that you are. If you are serious about getting him to commit without having to threaten him, show him that you can do things on your own. The best and easiest way to show your independence is to plan things with others.

This is not to say that you need to go out every night with your wild girlfriends and get home at the wee hours of the morning. Rather, showing your independence is a way of showing him that you don’t depend on him for everything. Schedule a lunch with an old friend from high school. Go to that family reunion that you always miss because you rather spend a weekend with your man. He will be a lot closer to committing to you when he sees that you aren’t glued to his hip!