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How Can I Get My Boyfriend To Marry Me
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How Can I Get My Boyfriend To Marry Me

One of the most important elements between two people who love each other is commitment. Usually, women start making plans for marriage once they have found someone they love. However, seeking commitment from men is not that easy. If you are bewildered with the question “How do I get my boyfriend to marry me?” then you need to know a couple of things.

If your man is not moving the relationship forward, first of all, don’t confront him, or have “the talk.” That just scares men off and makes them even less likely to want to commit. They don’t want to feel like you’re their mother. Men have a lot of pride, don’t make them feel like a child.

If you haven’t figured out yet (and most women haven’t), men process their emotions differently then women. Women are very in tune to what they feel and have a need to talk about those feelings with others. Men on the other hand, have a harder time understanding what they feel, and have been taught from childhood not to talk about their emotions. And men will pull away if they feel pressured into talking about their feelings or committing. So don’t push him or threaten him.

So what do you do? First of all, think of his feelings as traffic signals: green, yellow, and red. If he’s green, he’s moving the relationship forward on his own. If he’s yellow or red, he’s at a stand still, in which case you need to do some stuff to get his green light on again.

So what can you do? How about letting go of the urgent need to get married right now. (Even if you’ve been waiting for years for him to move forward.) Think back to when you were first dating and how much the two of you had fun together getting to know each other, and just enjoying each others company. Just put the marriage desire on hold and try to recapture that “honeymoon” period that you had with him when you first met.

What did you do to get him to love you? I bet you know. Go back to those tactics - like you probably asked him about himself, wanted to know what he liked and enjoyed. Have you lost that? Have you lost the admiration for him because of day to day hassles. Go back to letting him know you admire him and why. And mean it! If you can’t mean it, then you’re trying to marry the wrong man.

When you start recapturing those feelings from the first year you were together, he’s heart light will suddenly turn green again. Why? Because he’ll feel admired and important. (Men really need to feel those two things from the woman they are with.) And when that happens he will want to move the relationship forward on his own. And then he will start talking about commitment and marriage and you can let him think it was all his idea.


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