You love your boyfriend. You are certain that he's "The One." You just haven't been able to get him to realize the same thing about me for some strange reason. You want him to see the same possibilities for the future when he looks at you. Just like you see it when you look at him. Is there something you're doing wrong to make him pull away from commitment? How do you make my boyfriend commit to our relationship and me the way you want him to? Is there a secret solution that will make him fall madly and deeply in love with you and then make him ready to commit?

Commitment can be a scary thing to guys. The problem is, they don't like to admit they're afraid of anything. There are many reasons that commitment proves to be problematic for so many men and very few of them have anything at all to do with you. Can you help your boyfriend overcome his fear of commitment? Probably. It isn't as difficult as you may have been lead to believe unless there are extenuating circumstances of course. But it's really important to remember that there is no one size fits all solution that is going to work for all commitment phobic men or the women who love them.

Getting started on the right foot is perhaps the most important part of the process. You don't want to hit him over the head with a sledgehammer that says you're looking for marriage, playing house, and baby carriages right here and right now. That will send him running for hills as if his hair was on fire. You want to ease him into the idea of a deeper level of commitment. The best way by far is to convince him that it's his idea completely and then you won't have to worry about the need to get your ex back for pushing too hard but that isn't always possible.

Here are a few things you might want to consider to help you get your boyfriend to commit.

• Ease your way deeper into his life. Introduce him to your family and make a point of meeting his family and friends. The more involved in each other's lives you become the deeper the bond between you will become as well. Don't push, impose, or make big moves all at once but begin making small moves to become a more intimate part of his day to day life.
• Gravitate towards and socialize with other couples that are at the level of commitment you want him to make with you and HAPPY. This will show him that there are others that are in committed relationships and enjoying the relationships they have.
• Tell him how you really feel and what you'd like to see from him. This is the one that may get excellent results if he feels the same way about you. It's also a risky maneuver that could push him away if he isn't ready for a commitment or hasn't yet decided that you're the one he wants to commit to so enter with caution.

The bottom line is that you can either save your relationship completely with these moves or put it in greater risk. You will have to be the one who decides if the commitment you want from your boyfriend is worth the risk of actively trying to get it.