Frustrating isn’t it - loving someone and not knowing why the feelings aren’t being returned? You love him and would do almost anything to make him fall in love with you.

You may even forget that the most important part of the question “how to make a man fall in love with you?” is the “with you?”

Research shows that over 8000 people pose this very question somewhere on the Internet every single month. That’s a lot of ladies asking how to make a man to fall in love with them.

The information out there seems to me to be about manipulation.

In my opinion this is not a good idea:

• Why would you want to manipulate a man to get him to fall in love with you?

• Would it not be preferable to make a man fall in love with you for who you are, by being yourself?

• Would you like to be happy and content with each other without either having to pretend you are something else?

One size does not fit all when it comes to love but there are a couple of common traits that most men enjoy:

Intelligence Is The New Sexy

Life is fast paced and keeping up with what is happening is exciting and fun. Men love women who are feisty and can talk and argue about a number of different subjects. Having a college degree is not necessarily intelligent.

Bouncing ideas off each other stimulates growth and is a great way to stay in touch and get closer together. The alternative is to watch the soaps on TV and read celebrity magazines but never know what is going on in his mind.

Communication is key in all relationships and knowledge of each other is the key to communication.

The Sound of Happiness

Laughter is an obvious one

How many times have I seen or heard “must have a sense of humor” when someone is describing their perfect significant other?

Being able to make him laugh is one thing but there are other sounds of happiness:

• whistling while going about your daily routine,

• music playing in the background,

• children splashing in the pool.

I once remember a work colleague of mine who was a BMW fanatic. He had a beautiful wife and 4 lovely kids.

Every morning at 5.00 a.m. he would get up to wash his car. He just couldn’t understand any one who didn’t share his passion for cars and one day he asked me what motivated me.

My reply was “arriving home and hearing my kids laughing and enjoying themselves.”

You could have heard a pin drop when he realized what I had said.

Sadly a few years later he was divorced and his ex committed suicide. The worst was yet to come as his sister-in-law went to court for custody of his kids.

There are happy smells too, and happy touches or signals. Let him know when you are happy.

A Confident Woman

Self-confidence is apparent in her aura, the way she walks and the way she treats others. There is no hint of insecurity about her.

It’s not arrogance but rather contentment within herself of who she is and where she is going in life.

At times she is noticed as soon as she walks into a room while at other times she is hardly noticed at all, yet very much part of the proceedings.

The self assured lady is usually a low maintenance partner, quite capable of getting on with, and making her own way in, life. And for all that she is quite possible the driving force behind his success. Behind every successful man……..

A Bit of Appreciation Goes A Long Way

Do you like being appreciated and complimented for the things you do, including the little things that so many people seem to take for granted?

You can bet your bottom dollar that if a man has a passion for something he wants to be recognized for his achievements in the same way you do.

This is especially so where his passion involves his family.

I am a keen cook and as much as I enjoy cooking I get the greatest thrill from cooking when people have a second portion. Just don’t ask me to do desserts, I’m hopeless at them and that is where my confident woman steps in to crown the meal.

Appreciation can be little things such as a glass of his favorite thirst quencher on a hot day when he is painting the roof or mowing the lawn.

One glass of iced tea could easily earn you an intimate dinner and special moments of undivided attention with the man you love.

We all have our good days and our bad and it is not always easy to be at our best all the time. But understanding your partner and how he is wired (what makes his boat float) will give him a greater insight into, and appreciation of, the real you.

Isn’t that a better way to make the right man (your man) fall in love with you?

Men are simple creatures that want someone to share their life with despite their sometimes weird and macho behavior.

Go out there and make yourself irresistible so that he will have no option but to fall in love with, and commit to, you.