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How to win your ex back

They say love is the strongest human emotion. Actually, love is more like an addiction than love itself. When you break up with your ex it’s like being addicted to drugs and going through withdrawal symptoms. The funny thing is, you wonder if your ex is going through these same withdrawals as well. As much as you love your ex you ask yourself, how did we allow it to go this far. There are no two relationships alike. You ever see two people together and they look like total opposites? It is not for you to figure out. You will never figure it out. The inner sanction is only known by them. They are connected in they’re own likeness.

I met my ex about 15 years ago. I was with another women at the time. She was going through a divorce and seeing this guy. We were both upfront about our current relationships. We both liked each other. She was the most beautiful women, still is. I asked her out and she complied. At first, we just hung out for about a month. Talk, danced, went to dinner. Just enjoyed each others company. I just wanted to establish a friendship with her. I wasn’t just horny for her. For the entire month I didn’t even try to kiss her. I just kissed her on the cheek and said later. We would call each other the next day and talk about the good time we had and plan our next outing. The next time we went out I asked her if she was still seeing this guy. During that month I didn’t want to stress her, we were having to much fun. So I asked her about him. She said yes, she was still seeing him. She said to me that she didn’t want to go out with me any more. She wanted to give her current relationship a chance. Even though her current relationship wasn’t going so well. I said ok, no problem, we are friends and I enjoy your company.

She calls me two weeks later and said she was at this club and did I want to come meet her. I said yes. From that point on we were like one. We did everything together. You would never see one with out the other. Although we were always together I still had the player in my system. Two years later she busted me cheating with a coworker. I don’t even know why I cheated. I truly loved my woman. They say a man is as good as his options, I had plenty, but, she gave me everything I needed. I wanted for nothing. The loving was the best in the world.

My girlfriend did the strangest thing. She sold all her worldly possessions and left the country. I was devastated. I drank myself into oblivion. She called me three weeks after she left the country. We had a mature conversation. She said she was involved with this banker. I wished her the best. Hey! lets face it, it was my fault this happened anyway, but I still loved her. Shockingly, she called me often, like once a week. One time she calls me crying. She says she was very unhappy and that this banker wouldn’t let her eat. He wanted her thin. She was a very good cook, on the order of my mother. She cooked healthy food so I couldn’t understand this banker. My ex had a nice shape, slightly thick ,but proportionate. She says to me, its not what you think, we sleep in two different rooms. He is selfish and self centered and egotistical. He doesn’t like to go out and it seems he just wants me to show me off. I just wanted to make you jealous. Then she says I love you, I miss you and I will be home in 6 months. I said wow! You had to leave the country to prove a point? She sold her house before she left the country! I was speechless.

I was in a drunken stupor. I drank so much that my landlady noticed from all the empty bottles in the garbage. I had to get it together. I was a mess. I was on the verge of losing my job, I wasn’t producing, I didn’t care. I was going through withdrawals from breaking up with my ex. Most men cannot control their emotions. I contained them but I was still out of control inside myself. I knew I wanted my ex back. Arguing and creating an uncomfortable situation between us would only keep the distance. Also, it was my fault. The love I feel for her will always be. I swore if she returned to me I will never cheat again, and I didn’t.

Six months later she returns and everything was love again. Three or fours years past and there wasn’t a problem insight. Deep down though, she never got over me cheating. Coupled with, we were from two different ethnic groups. Her family abandoned her because she was with me. One day she comes to me and says she misses her family and she wants to be more involved in their lives. I encourage her to be with them. There’s nothing more important than family I told her. In my heart she was my family. She said if we are still together her family will not except her back. So she wanted to break it off with me. I said listen, I love you more than life itself, if you are unhappy because you miss your family then go back to your family. I was very supportive. I will give you your space. This is how we parted. I was able to handle the second break up better than the first. It wasn’t much better but I didn’t fall in a bottle.

The moral of the story is I didn’t want to create a controversy between us. I wanted to leave the door open for her to come back. I had to let her go to get her back. Suppose my ex doesn’t come back, i thought? It’s been a year now. I have not had any relationships since then “I said I would never cheat on her again, and I didn’t”. In my heart she is still my woman. My door is still open, to this day. I have 15 years in the bank that say’s she will be back. You must let a bird fly….

I enjoyed writing this article. I think this article will help people deal with the loss of their ex an how to handle it emotionally. We all go through this at one time or another.


Street Talk

babarah  

GOD BLESS THE DAY HOW I GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things… then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address ogumensolutioncenter@yahoo. com spells is for a better life. again his email is ogumensolutioncenter@yahoo. com OR call him with this number+2348112060028

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  about 4 years ago
bianca1  

i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 6 years ago
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