Commitment, otherwise known as "the big C" when it comes to relationships on the rocks, can be a huge problem for relationships. More specifically, the problems arise when one person feels that the other isn't equally committed to the relationship or isn't living up to the commitment that has been made. Most of the time, relationship problems related to commitment occur when one person feels that he or she is pulling the heavy load and paying the price for commitment while the other person enjoys all the benefits with few of the burdens. Does that sound about right for your situation? If it's your wife that seems to be reaping the rewards of the commitment you've made to her without rolling up her sleeves and giving as good as she gets it can be quite…frustrating.

But that doesn't mean that she isn't as committed to the idea of making your marriage work as she was the day she made her wedding vows to you. In fact, your wife might not have lost an ounce of commitment. The problem isn't always that one person is losing their commitment. Perhaps it's that your idea of what commitment is or should be has evolved during the course of your marriage. Or maybe the two of you never sat down and discussed what commitment means to each of you. Sometimes you have the same goals and intentions for your marriage. You just happen to be on a different page as far as how to express your level of commitment at any given time.

There are things you can do though if you feel like your wife is losing a little of the commitment and love she had for you in the beginning. These things might not be the right steps to actually save your marriage if it's gone on too far but it can help you get your marriage back on track if it's only gone slightly off course.

• Sit down and discuss what you feel is missing in your marriage. Listen with an open mind and make sure you're not missing something important in the answers your wife is giving you. • Ask your wife where she stands on her commitment to your marriage. Chances are that she is still very much committed to making your marriage as happy and loving as it can be. You just might have gotten a little lost along the way. • Set an example by showing your wife the commitment you'd like to see from her. Sometimes it really is as simple as that.

Marriages today have enough trials and tribulations to work through. There's no need to borrow new worries over commitment if you're not sure that it's an issue with your marriage. If you see trouble where there is none you could find yourself trying to get your ex back instead of reconnecting and recommitting.