You think your boyfriend loves you. The problem is that our relationship seems to be caught in a never-ending state of limbo. It doesn't seem to be going anywhere. There have been no hints at making any sort of real or lasting commitment. Is the relationship standing on its last leg and not really going anywhere or is your boyfriend just afraid of making a commitment? The great commitment debate has been the destruction of many good relationships. It's hard when you want more and feel like the man you love just isn't seeing that you need a deeper commitment. It can be even harder to take when you believe he simply isn't willing to give you one.
The commitment question is one that can eat away at your relationship and leave you both with a few hard feelings to go around. But it's rarely as simple as assuming that he's just not that into you or even that he's afraid of commitment. It could even be that he feels he's already committed to you and is hurt that you aren't seeing what is already there. Some men find it difficult to verbalize the commitment they feel to you and the relationship you have together. They aren't interested in playing word games or engaging in something that is uncomfortable to them. Your relationship is comfortable as it is and they do not want to rock the boat by saying the wrong thing as far as commitment is concerned and sticking their feet in their mouths. Unfortunately, they err on the side of caution and believe that silence is best.
But, are you recognizing the subtle signs that he's giving you to show you just how concerned for you he is? These little signs may not seem all that important to you but for him, they are his way of showing his affection and commitment to you. If you don't figure them out you may find yourself looking for ways how to get your ex back instead. These signs include things that many women least expect like some of the following:
- He goes out of his way to make sure that your car is in proper running order, the tires have air, the oil is changed, etc.
- He buys you a can of pepper spray to keep on your keychain so that you have some protection late at night.
- Instead of romantic movies and candlelit dinners he takes you to self-defense classes and installs a super heavy duty deadbolt lock on your door.
These are not the things that melted hearts are made of but from where he sits, he's protecting something he believes is precious – you! Those are not the things that a man afraid of commitment does for the woman he loves. Those are the things that a man in love does for the woman he's in love with.
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