In reality, it can be pretty easy to make a man fall in love. Actually, you are not "making" him do anything he doesn't want to do. It is just the feeling he gets when he's around you which "makes" him want you in his life forever.
When he truly falls in love, he will be totally secure and comfortable around you, and won't be able to imagine life without you.
When a man falls in love, he generally falls with everything he's got. You know he's in love when he's the one doing the calling, can't wait to see you and really enjoys spending his time with you.
He will share things with you like how he heard a song on the radio and thought of you right away. He might remember that you were going to have a hectic day at work, and want to hear all about it.
When a man falls in love, it can be an all-consuming thing for him to think about you constantly throughout his day. How do get a man to this point?
Assuming that you've gone out on more than a few dates and are moving things along to an exclusive relationship, there are things he'll just love about you without you really having to do anything special.
For instance, maybe it’s the way you bite your lip when you are reading. You might not even be aware you're doing it, but he finds it endearing and sexy. Maybe it's your funny laugh, or your beautiful eyes. There are literally dozens of things that he can secretly love about you.
One surefire way to endear you to him is by simply making him feel good, all the way around.
Men love to feel important, appreciated and like they can protect you. I am not suggesting that you act like someone you're not, or like a weak person when you're self-sufficient.
To make him feel important, ask him about things he likes, and really listen to what he has to say in response. You can ask about his day, or how he handled a difficult situation with a client at work, or why he's a fan of a certain sports team.
Ask him about his opinion on things, or to explain why your car might be making that horrible noise. Just so you know and trust me on this one, that noise will stop as soon as he takes the car for a drive to hear it for himself.
If he offers to help you with something, let him because he wants to help you. It is alright to accept help that is offered on occasion, but it’s an entirely different thing to hand him a “honey do” list and expect him to start taking care of your responsibilities.
To make him feel secure and be able to trust and open up to you, let him know that you love him because he's funny or witty or he's got cute toes. You don't want him to feel like you're setting a marriage trap or trying to trick him into being in the relationship for any other reason than because you want to be with him.
Letting him go out with his buddies and giving him the space he needs when he needs it is another important way you can show that you trust him, and that he can still do the things he loves even though he's in a relationship with you.
At the same time, don't ignore all your friends and never see anyone once you get into a relationship. It's just as important for you to maintain your independence as it is for him. Make time for your friends and for things you enjoy to do by yourself.
You can show him you feel safe around him by snuggling up on the couch to watch a movie, or lying in his arms watching a sunset. When he sees you are relaxed and happy just to snuggle with him, a bond will begin to form.
My sister has coined a term that I love called the "love goggles" phase of a relationship.
This is the phase when the relationship is new. You're both crazy about and enjoy the excitement of discovering new things about each other. You are both feeling the high of the love emotions, and just can't seem to get enough of one another.
You're both on your best behavior at this stage, not yet comfortable with each other to let your hair down and really be yourselves.
Sometime within the first year of the relationship, you take the love goggles off and see the real person. This means arguments, bad moods, and the day-to-day issues of real life kick in.
This is a crucial stage of the relationship because once you see your partner without wearing the love goggles, it is then that you can decide if this is really someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
After the love goggles come off, points of view on different important subjects are bound to and should come up. Do you want a family? Are you a saver or a spender? Are the household chores being equally shared, or is one person doing more of the work?
More than likely, a woman will get a good idea if her partner will be likely to make a commitment and take the relationship to a more serious level, or has a timeframe in mind of when or if that might take place.
This stage of the relationship is important because it's time to really hear what he's saying. If he's hesitating in moving forward, you can choose to work on ways that will let him feel extremely secure with you and your relationship.
So you see, it is not too difficult to make a man fall in love. The beauty is, you won’t have to make him do anything at all.
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