You may have dated for a short period of time, or you may have dated and been engaged for several years, it really is irrelevent. The fact is that you are married now, and you should want to keep it that way.

Why would you want to take something that can be so beautiful and everlasting, and mess it up. Why would anyone want to willingly have an affair. If you want to have an affair, have it with your spouse.

You can go out to a hotel, get a nice room, and get crazy. It is really easy to get creative when you are in a strange hotel room, alone with your wife or husband. If you get a room with a jacuzzi tub in the room, that is a lot of fun. You can both get in the tub together, and really enjoy yourselves. Let go of your inhibitions and live a little, tomorrow or the next day, you will be back home, to the same old atmosphere, so enjoy it completely, while you can.

You don't need to go out and find a stranger, or even a co-worker that is willing to have a fling with you. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, it is always possible to have that temptation, but if you can change it around a little at home, then why make the biggest mistake that you can possibly make in your life, and destroy your marriage, and deeply hurt the one you really love.

If you have children, then get a sitter, or have their grandparents watch them for the weekend. Usually grandparents love having their grand children around, especially for the weekend. It gives your parents something new to do. They can take the kids to a movie, or to the park, or where ever they would like to. It is their chance to have fun with the grand children, so let them have the opportunity.

You don't have to go crazy with spending money, but you should have a nice dinner, even if you decide that you want room service to deliver it to your room. You don't even need any jammies, or night clothes. The lighter that you travel to your night of fun and romance, the better.

So, you can see how easy it is to keep your marriage happy and exciting. Forget about what differences that you may occasionally have, and just enjoy your spouse and your marriage. It may make communication easier between you both, and if there are any problems or if any doubts are starting to develop in your marriage, you can nip them in the bud.

For the unfortunate ones that have already made the mistake to stray from your marriage, and have an affair, then you have a lot of repairing to do. You are going to have to work together with your spouse on saving your marriage, and earning their trust and respect again. It will be a tough, and possibly long road, but in the end, it is well worth it to save your marriage, and be with the one that you truly love.