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The Emotional Affair: When Your Spouse Is Bonding With Someone Else
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The Emotional Affair: When Your Spouse is Bonding With Someone Else

It is meant to look so innocent. There is no sex, after all, nothing wrong is actually happening, but for many married and otherwise committed couples, the emotional affair can have all of the impact of a physical affair and all of the pain. The two who are bonded are completely convinced that there is no reason for anyone to be angry while the person or people on the outside looking in are seething. There are a number of reasons that your emotional affair can be a turning point in your marriage, but not in a direction you want it to go.

Courtney Stodden, most famous for marrying a man decades older than her, is almost the poster child for how not to run a marriage. From her bizarre antics during interviews to barely clothed incidents meant to incite public ire, Stodden and her husband, Doug Hutchens are viewed with major contempt by the vast majority of people. The pair are now appearing on Couple's Therapy, the reality show where they are trying to "fix" their troubled marriage. But, according to the disheartened bridegroom, there are more problems than one would assume. Stodden was sixteen when she married Hutchens, with the blessing of her parents. In addition to her penchant for showing up in inappropriate clothing wherever she goes, the couple revealed that additional trouble is brewing in their marriage.

Like a number of other couples, even those who are closer together in age, emotional bonding and a suspected emotional affair are central to the newest problems that were "revealed" during their therapy. According to Courtney, she often "forgets" that she is married in the first place, an obvious jolt to Doug's ego. That information comes on top of his revelation that his bride is spending hours on the phone with an ex boyfriend, while she is in bed with him. That news was not well received by anyone, including outsiders who have been questioning everything about the relationship in the first place. Stodden claimed to have been a virgin when she married Doug but admitted that her relationship with this man was sexual in nature, at least "somewhat". No matter what their motivation, it is obvious that Doug was stunned and hurt by this information and the bride's ongoing behavior.

A couple who are getting along and bonding with others outside of their marriage is unlikely to cause a problem. However, a marriage that is on shaky grounds to begin with may not be able to withstand the assaults of an emotional affair.


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William6  

I couldn't remember who they were at first ..,then I said "oh,Yeah. Age difference..movie actor..young woman." Runaway train and celebrity status is the only thing that comes to mind.

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  about 7 years ago

i have just read your article and it is impressive. when i read it, what immediately came into my mind was the word divorce. your article will therefore go along way in helping though who would need it as food for thought. thank you very much.

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