Hi! How's it going?

I wanted to talk to you today about why guys pull away in relationships. It's one of the most common questions I get on my website.

Quite frankly, it's a question that really baffles most women. Honestly, I think it baffles the guys who pull away too. :-)

Before I go any further I wanted to clear the air... This is something that I think is very important to consider when we talk about this topic...

It's not your fault ladies.

Let me say that again. I don't think it's your fault that your man pulls away.

I hear from women all the time that seem to think it's their fault... They think that they aren't attractive enough, intelligent enough ... they simply think that they aren't enough.

Let me tell you something okay? You're enough. You're attractive enough. You're intelligent enough. As a man, let me tell you straight up okay? Every woman deserves a man that is 100% committed to her and their life together.

You might be saying to yourself ... It just has to be somebodies fault, doesn't it? Well, not really.

We could pin it on the men, but then we'd be ignoring something crucial... Men are basically hardwired to pull away under certain situations. You might say "it's in our DNA..."

Now, don't get me wrong ... it CAN be the man's fault and it CAN be the woman's fault. Without knowing the exact situation it would be impossible for me to say with 100% certainty... I'm talking to the masses here... Women who experience men pulling away because of "natural causes"... If you're stalking him, abusing him or if you're just not pleasant to be around then perhaps it is your fault.

Honestly, though, I don't think that's you... :-)

Can I draw an analogy that I think will be helpful? You can probably make a pretty decent guess at what the analogy is going to involve by looking at the title of this article. Can we imagine that a relationship is like a road? Let's also imagine that you and your hubby-to-be are driving on this road...You both have the same destination which is marriage.

On this particular road women tend to drive a lot faster than men. This isn't always the case but most of the time I've found this to be true. So what happens? You reach the destination first. You're ready to take EXIT Alter... But guess what? Your man is about 50 exits back!

Everything has been going so great, right? You both "seemed" on the same page about marriage ... you probably ARE on the same page about marriage but... You're moving faster than he's moving on the road! Now he starts to pull away and act distant. Why? I think it's because of pressure. Guys don't like being pressured when it concerns their future. Most men ENJOY the bachelor life.

Now, that's not to say that men would RATHER be a bachelor than married but, come on, it's always difficult leaving something good for something better... Change is scary. So what are you suppose to do? A lot of women here would be tempted to give their man an ultimatum -- she's ready to get married and she wants her ring now! :-)

I would recommend against this strategy... More than likely you'll just end up pushing him further away. This doesn't mean waiting years on him to get there...

What you want to do is find a way to encourage him to move along the road faster... Note that encourage does NOT mean force. Forcing a man to commit (ie, an ultimatum) is, remember, a huge reason why men pull away! I'm planning an article on how to encourage your man to get to EXIT Alter faster. Check back soon!

I hope that this helps you understand a bit more about why men pull away. Leave some comments below and let me know what helped and what didn't okay? :-)