Are you having issues in the commitment department with your boyfriend? It's not all that uncommon. In fact, many women working their way up through the relationship ranks with Mr. Wonderful often complain that he has commitment issues. There are many reasons that men have these issues but most of them come down to the fact that he's loved and lost and really been burned before – badly. It's so hard to undo what another woman has done to your man. There are even sad country songs about the impact that the woman before must have had on a man.

If you're not seeing one or more of the signs he's afraid of commitment then it could be that you're just not reading the situation the way it really is and he's already committed to you. That happens sometimes. Really! Have you ever been in a knock-down drag-out china breaking fight about something only to realize after a lot of tears and hair pulling that you were saying the same thing? It happens. It's no fun at all when it does – especially if your fights tend to escalate over time. The point is that it happens more often than most couples realize. You both feel the same need for a situation to be solved but you aren't expressing yourselves, your needs, or your wishes in a manner that ensures the other person is getting the real clear message.

You don't have to stay on the commitment wondering rollercoaster forever. The best solution is to just ask him how he feels about kicking your relationship up a notch or two and taking things to the next level. If you're afraid of feeling foolish though you can check out these signs he's afraid of commitment first. Maybe they can help prevent you from saying something you don't mean and needing to get your ex back before all is said and done.

Signs He's Afraid of Commitment

1) He isn't open with you about family and friends. 2) He doesn't engage you in deep or emotional conversations. 3) He changes the subject when emotions or talk of the future comes up. 4) He tells you he's been hurt before and isn't ready for a real relationship.

Men are not machines. They feel just as deeply as women do and they can get their hearts ripped out when they are dumped by someone else. If he's worth fighting for; he's worth waiting for. At least for a little while. Give him a little time to sort things out and give yourself a time limit for waiting. Neither of you will be happy to go on indefinitely in a relationship where you aren't both getting your needs met. You'll eventually find yourself at a point where it's time to strengthen your commitment to make your relationship work or move on with him in your life.