This Article is About
breakups
silences
first steps
big mistake
relationship
Calling Your Ex Boyfriend After A Break Up - Is It A Good Idea?
Join 1000's of Authors at StreetArticles Today!

Calling Your Ex Boyfriend After A Break Up  -  Is It A Good Idea?

Ever since the breakup, you've missed him. You've missed hearing his voice and you miss the way things used to be between the two of you before everything seemed to go downhill. You probably think about him a lot more than you want to, and it's hard to not try and reach out and reestablish that contact that you've grown so attached to throughout the course of your relationship.

In order to get your ex-boyfriend back, you clearly need to talk. Whether or not to establishing that contact yourself is a question that often lingers in the minds of women in similar situations. Is it okay to reach out and take the first steps? Should you wait for him to call first? What if he never does? How long should it be between the breakup and when we start talking again? No two breakups are identical and these answers are not always easy to come by - if ever.

Instead of focusing on whether or not to dial his number, think about what his reaction will be. Will he be hesitant? Will he even answer the call? Will the conversation be awkward and full of silences that seem to last forever? What will you say and how will he respond? In order to give yourself the best chance possible of getting a positive and friendly response, your ex-boyfriend has to start the process of missing you. Until he does, any conversation that takes place may be uneasy or tense. He's seeing you in the post-breakup light - not as someone he has come to think of fondly.

Show Him that You've Accepted the Reality and You're Moving Forward

Come to terms with the fact that while the ball may indeed be in your court, you do have a choice as to what you do. You can't guarantee that he'll pick up the phone someday and admit that he made a big mistake. It may be your biggest dream, but that doesn't mean it will happen. If you start the process by chasing after someone intent on getting away, he's only going to go farther. It's not until you stop in your tracks or even move in the opposite direction that you're sure to regain his attention.

When you're playing a game with someone that involves a chase or a pursuit, you may notice a curious thing. If you're the one running after your competitor and you stop, they start looking around and wondering where you went. This gives you the upper hand in the game - and with your ex-boyfriend. He's expecting you to tag along in the background until he's ready to cut you free completely. You're simply taking the choice away from him by severing ties abruptly and without warning. He's going to start looking for you when he goes out. When he doesn't see you, he's going to start questioning himself and trying to logically come up with reasons why you're not. This is going to make or break your effort to get back together, and the scale is already tipped in your favor.

Take matters into your own hands at this point and embrace an air of positivity that will convey a very specific (and very frightening) message to your ex-boyfriend. Don't just accept the fact that the breakup happened - be happy that it did! Go out and enjoy your single life and let him hear about your happiness from co-workers or mutual friends. He's not going to be able to contain himself. His urge to contact you is increasing while yours is diminishing. This is the perfect setup for your next step.

Avoid Contact and Enhance his Curiosity

Male curiosity is a strange and easily manipulated phenomenon. You knew all the tricks when you first started seeing your ex and the rules haven't changed much. Playing hard to get is a time-honored successful technique for a reason. Now you're going to put it into play on a different scale. It's time to distance yourself from your ex. In order to do that successfully, you need to stop talking to him. Don't respond to his inquiries - at least for a specific time. Don't make all the information he needs about you available and at his fingertips if he checks out your Facebook. Don't email him your schedule in case he wants to stop by. Just cut it all out.

Removing yourself this suddenly will instantly create a void in your ex's life. He never expected that you'd walk away after he dumped you - in fact, he was counting on the opposite. You've yanked away his security and damaged his ego in one blow. By disappearing completely for a while, you're taking his curiosity to the next level. He won't be able to find out what you've been up to, and it will drive him nuts. He's going to think about you more than ever and when that happens, you're in the driver's seat. Once he starts to think about you, he'll think about all the time you spent together and that will instantly make him miss you again. Once he misses you, you can pretty much assure yourself that the hard work is reaching an end and it's paying off in your favor.

Making Contact - His First Move

Being left behind by someone you still love is a difficult and heart-breaking process, especially when you want to get back together and your ex-boyfriend seems to want anything but. It's normal to find yourself plagued with questions. You don't know how long to wait before trying to reach out - or if you should reach out at all. Remember that needing space after a breakup is simply a normal part of the process for guys and girls alike and it doesn't mean that all hope is lost and that you won't get him back.

Don't allow your fear of him slipping away for good cloud your judgment. You've come so far from the weepy, needy girl that you were immediately following the breakup. You have grown immensely and your ex-boyfriend has noticed. If he's not jumping at the chance to contact you again, it's not because he's not interested. It's because he's still trying to decide what his feelings for you are and adapt to the new reality of life without you in it.

His lack of contact may seem disheartening, but it's not. Now you need to take specific and subtle steps to increase the frequency that you cross his mind. Tact is a necessary part of this process - you don't want to act in a way that is too obvious. Fortunately, there are a lot of things you can do at this point to make that happen without having to resort to anything drastic.

Your Next Steps

Now that you have worked out a little about contact with your ex boyfriend. It is essential that you take the next steps to encourage his interest in you. Part of this centers around knowing what to say when he does get in touch with you. Using the no contact rule can elicit positive reactions from him is the best way to achieve this.

There is more to it than just this though. Getting your ex boyfriend back is a fine art, so you have to cover all of the bases to make it happen. Ever thought about trying to make him jealous? This may not be your style, but if done correctly, it can have very successful results. Another thing that you need to be aware of whilst all of this is taking place is his feelings. Does he still love you? Read the signs he still cares and be on the look out for these!


Street Talk

If i were to be asked if i would ever contact a MAGIC PRIEST online during an interview of any sort, i would ask the interviewer if they were out of their mind Because things like that cost them there job. Not just because i thought of MAGIC spell as something fetish but also because most people see MAGIC spell as pure madness. At least that was my point of view about MAGIC spell until METODO ACAMU showed me what true MAGIC spell was. He helped me get back my husband that was involved with my best friend from even before we got married. My suspicion started on my husband 45th years old birthday i threw for him. I was working my ass out trying to making sure he has the best time of his life that day while himself and one of my best friend were all over each other. I did not notice anything because she was one of my best friend and we shared a lot together who would have ever thought that she would stab me at the back. But my other friend noticed what was going on. They observed that anytime he dropped his phone, she picks hers up and like they told me it went on for about 2 hours straight. They did not tell me until after the birthday bash. They told me all about what was going on i was totally shocked i could not believe that my best friend and my husband were involved with one another. I was going to jump into conclusion and ask them about it but no i decided find out more information to get my fact right. With the help of my friend who still had my best interest in heart they were able to steal her phone ie they back stabbing friend phone. And i got to know all i need to know. My husband and her have being see each other since even before we got married and my husband confirmed it was he was like she has always been the one he loved and wanted to spend his life with. I was so sick and sad, what was i going to tell our kid that mommy and daddy can not stay together anymore cos of the my friend they call aunt ? i remember that i cried for days with the thought that i have been a fool for nine years not noticing anything like i was a fool in love with someone who never loved me. It was like my heart was failing. I was still in love with my husband even if he no longer wanted to be with me. I could not bear the pain of being without him and having to lie to my kids so i found a MAGIC PRIEST to help me. Though i was skeptical about it i just thought to myself what do i have to loss i mean with a MAGIC spell or not i have lost the one thing aside from my kids that made me whole and the probability that i was loss my kids to him when it came to custody battle was at the high so i just let myself do what my heart told me to do. I contacted METODO ACAMU after reading a comment on a blog about how he has helped a lot of men and women fix their problem. I explained to him my situation and he promised he was going to help kill my pain by bring the man i love back to me. He asked me to either get some materials he listed for me and send them to him via ups or i bring them to him in his temple or i can also send him the cost of the materials to get them for me. I sent the cost to him because it was the cheapest option of all. It took him about 6 day to prepare the spell and after which he send me a package containing something am not allowed to tell but i can promise it is totally harmless to even a fly along side instructions on how to make the MAGIC spell active. It took another 5 days for the Magic spell to became active and after that day it was almost like magic i can explain what happened but all i can say is that my husband came back to me asking me to take him back telling me how much he loves me and wanted to be with me. My life is back to how it ought to be with my husband and my kids by my side. METODO ACAMU helped me make this happen. Here is his contact for those who believe and want to contact him metodoacamufortressx @ yahoo. com us this email in the regular format for emails where letters and characters all packed together

Reply
  about 5 years ago
stacey4  

Hello Everyone, who still care about his/her ex-lover/husband or wife. I am from London I never though my husband will come back to me again, I am very happy at last that my husband came back to me after i was acquise of been barren of not been able to bring front children,Then i came across Dr Ogala who help me in bring back my husband to his sense with a spell and now i have a baby girl to show to the world that i am fruitful. i am grateful and happier than never before, Thank You Doctor for helping me, email Ogalalovespell@gmail. com, if you still love or want your ex-lover and happy marriage with children.

Reply
  about 7 years ago
stacey4  

Hello Everyone, who still care about his/her ex-lover/husband or wife. I am from London I never though my husband will come back to me again, I am very happy at last that my husband came back to me after i was acquise of been barren of not been able to bring front children,Then i came across Dr Ogala who help me in bring back my husband to his sense with a spell and now i have a baby girl to show to the world that i am fruitful. i am grateful and happier than never before, Thank You Doctor for helping me, email Ogalalovespell@gmail. com, if you still love or want your ex-lover and happy marriage with children.

Reply
  about 7 years ago
stacey4  

Hello Everyone, who still care about his/her ex-lover/husband or wife. I am from London I never though my husband will come back to me again, I am very happy at last that my husband came back to me after i was acquise of been barren of not been able to bring front children,Then i came across Dr Ogala who help me in bring back my husband to his sense with a spell and now i have a baby girl to show to the world that i am fruitful. i am grateful and happier than never before, Thank You Doctor for helping me, email Ogalalovespell@gmail. com, if you still love or want your ex-lover and happy marriage with children.

Reply
  about 7 years ago

My name is Jessica Ruiz from Florida I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine Lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr Shiva. I email Dr Shiva the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr Shiva for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is:hinduspelltemple@yahoo. com you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too....

Reply
  about 7 years ago

I am giving this testimony cos l am happy My name is Mrs. Deborah Solomon from Houston, taxes. I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once. When I went to Africa in March this year on a business summit. I meant a man called dr. Gbojoro1.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone, misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job. I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man I had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… I really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when I met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. at first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all I wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. In case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address gbojorotemple1@yahoo. com Great Gbojoro1 I thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you i would have been losted and wasted thank you. Please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay.. What a powerful man such as Dr Gbojoro1.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. gbojorotemple1@yahoo. com

Reply
  about 7 years ago
kuqya1  

Hello to people that want to be Great, Get your problem solve in Kuq Ya oracle temple / shrine ...You can get the bellow problems solve here.I will want you all to know that there is no side effect to this spell casting at all,It just to help you get what you want in-other ,And you will also be free from fake spell casters if you come for solution to your problems here. 1. Get your scam money back 2.} Bring back lost lover, even if lost for a long time 3.} Remove bad spells from homes, business & customer attraction etc. 4.} Get promotion you have desired for a long time at work or in your career. 5.} Read all your problems before you even mention them to him 6.} Remove the black spot that keeps on taking your money away 7. Find out why you are not progressing in life and the solution 8.} Eliminate in family fights 9.} Ensure excellent school grades even for children with mental disabilities 10.} Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart 11.} I destroy and can send back the Nikolos if requested 12.} We heal barrenness in women and disturbing menstruation 13.} Get you marriage to the lover of your choice 14.} Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage 15.} Ensure success in work and business 16.} Mental illness & bewitched 17.} Can?t sleep at night or walking at night 18.} Recover stolen property and whereabouts of people that hurt you. 19.} Bring supernatural luck into 20.} Extreme protection for those doing dangerous jobs like security guards, Bank manager, cash transporters, Etc great.spellcaster@yahoo. com . READ UP CAREFULLY AND GET YOUR PROBLEM SOLVE:contact great.spellcaster@yahoo. com .

Reply
  about 7 years ago
kuqya1  

Hello all, Why must we be confused by all this online scammers when we all know that there has never been any other oracle apart from the the great spell casters called lama lama oracle temple, The great oracle and also the i my self called kuq ya that is greatest of all,Kuq ya means GREATEST AMONG ALL THE SPELL CASTERS...This oracle has been in existence for so many years even before i was born i inherited it from my great father..Since we have been existing we have never failed in solving any kind of problem anyone must have been having cos we know the spirits that we serve we never lets us down,We perform various sacrifice to this spirits from time to make our powerful and doings ineffective..This temple is out on the internet to tell of you that is wasting your time and also your hard earned money dealing with all this hungry souls that called there self spell casters and bring cause to themselves by claiming to be what they are not,We advise you all that you should stop it as it is no right to do such a thing,Because those spell caster that called there self different names / temples are scammers,You will do this greatest oracle good by doing that ok..They are scammers and all those testimony there are posted by them also and not the people they have help,They are doing all this to get money to fed there-self and there family members !!! BE WARNED ALL !!.. I have made so many of them online that are spoiling this great temple good work go back to the sea and some blind.I am Dr Kuq Ya the messenger to the great oracle of Nigeria,Indian,Indonesia,Singapore,UK,USA,Uganda,japan,Spain,Germany and Paris..We are know well there as the great temple that has helped them get many of there ANCESTRAL problems solve in recent times..But we are also extending this great offer to those that have any kind of problem,when i mean any kind of problem i mean any problem at all you might be having in this life,Such as getting your love back,you want to be rich, you feel like using charms on someone to get something your like from him or her or getting your scam many back,to mention but a few.. KUQ YA IS HERE FOR YOUR SERVICES AND PLEASE STOP DEALING WITH THOSE SO CALLED SPELL CASTERS THAT HAVE REALLY MESSED UP THIS WORK ONLINE.I HAVE NEVER BEEN ONLINE,BUT THE PRESIDENTS OF THE ABOVE COUNTRIES CALLED ME ON PHONE AND ALSO PERSONALLY HOLD A MEETING AND THEY ASK ME THE MESSENGER TO START ADVERTING AND TELL ALL ABOUT THIS GREATEST ORACLE DURABLE,PERFECT,MARVELOUS,AND GOOD WORKS TO AVOID THIS SCAMMING THAT IS GOING ON ONLINE... I WILL BE ENDING HERE NOW, IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING BOTHERING YOUR MIND AND YOU NEED PERMANENT SOLUTION TO IT WITHOUT ANY SIDE EFFECT OR HARM,KINDLY SEND AN EMAIL TO THE FOLLOWING EMAIL ADDRESS: great.spellcaster@yahoo. com...Thanks and may the spirits guide you to read and understand what i said and also we will be awaiting response from you all that have problems that want it solve at once.. Thanks for your patronage as you come.

Reply
  about 7 years ago
kuqya1  

Thank you for help but most of all, your honesty. Again, thank you for everything & the peace you are bringing to my life.Raymond's wills is totally in love with me. He said that he would rather be by himself than with anyone other than me. He told me that he thinks of me, cries, & fantasizes about me every second. Today we made love for the first time in 1 year. Thank you. He wants to be together forever & is willing to do whatever it takes for that to happen. Thank you, Chantel Abi chicago. Send an email to him through the following email address: great.spellcaster@yahoo. com for your help also

Reply
  about 7 years ago

i was pregnant when my boyfriend ended thing up with me to be cos he was too scared to be father at least that hat he said and that why he wanted to break up with me but really he want to go be with some other girl.But i loved him too much to let him just work out like that on me and my unborn child so i use a spell i had MUTTON cast for me and it worked cos why he was meant to be my and MUTTON just needed to bring to life that part of him that was heads over heels for me.And to be frank with you all MUTTON is one of the last few real and reliable spell caster read about him online and see other testimony just say if you need to save your relationship contact him with godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

Reply
  about 7 years ago
You May Also Like
How to Reconnect With Her After Breaking Up
After a breakup, our lives are spun out of control.  You have no idea if she's going to come back to you, if she's seeing someone else, and you feel desperate to get her back.  Here are three things you can do to make yourself feel better - and ultimately…
By: Max Grimnar in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Sep 29, 2011  
0
  Likes: 3

Why Did He Break Up With Me? - Some Reasons You May Not Have Thought Of
Breakups are never easy for anyone and they are certainly no fun. Not only do they stir up a swarm of emotions, they can also leave a girl's mind buzzing with questions. The biggest and most common question being, why did he break up with me? Some guys are nice…
By:  in  Relationships   Jul 18, 2012  
1
  Likes: 4

Why Does My Ex Ignore Me? - The Real Reasons
No one says the breakups are easy. In fact, they're one of the hardest circumstances that anyone has to face in their lifetime. Often, they seem completely out of control and there's nothing you can do except sit there in shock and wonder what happened. Breakups often come as a…
By: Isabella Rose in  Relationships  >  Communication   Oct 25, 2012  
0
  Likes: 3

My Boyfriend Dumped Me – How Can I Pick Myself Back Up
“I am so depressed because my ex boyfriend dumped me” It something like the end of your life, however it isn't. Of course, it is hurting you, but it won’t kill you. Breakups happen and you also need to learn how to get over from a bad breakup. To do…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Jul 28, 2012  
8
  Likes: 3

Contact Ex Boyfriend - Should You?
There are no traffic lights when it comes to relationship repair and when you should and shouldn't contact your ex boyfriend. There is no green light to let you know when the timing is right and there's no red light to stop you in your tracks. That means you have…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Communication   Sep 16, 2012  
0
  Likes: 0

Depression And Breakups – Are You Sad Or is it Depression?
Feeling sad and a little bit depressed after a breakup is perfectly natural. There comes a time though when it crosses the line between feeling sad and a medical condition known as depression that can have a significant impact on your mental health, quality of life, and the people around…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Mar 20, 2011  
0
  Likes: 1

Why Arent Your Efforts to Get Over Your Ex Working?
It's not always easy to get over your ex. All relationships are different and some touch us more deeply than even we may realize at the time. That's why there are so many couples out there who will admit they didn't realize what they had together or how special it…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Mar 14, 2011  
0
  Likes: 1

Post Breakups - How To Get Him Back
Breakups in relationships are painful but they do occur. They are not even rare events. Whether you have suffered a breakup in the past or not, it ios wise to know how to handle a breakup and how to get him back. I wish you do not have to use…
By: Parthasarathy Rengaswami in  Relationships  >  Love   Mar 19, 2013  
0
  Likes: 0

How to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back From Another Girl
It is always pitiful to see your ex boyfriend dating with someone else. Well, there are some reasons why he is attracted to that girl. If you want to win your ex boyfriend back from that girl, you need to understand why he left you and chose her. Whether you…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Jul 28, 2012  
36
  Likes: 4

How to Get Back Together With My Ex
So you are questioning “how to get back together with my ex?” It shows that you have been facing a break up for a few days. You want to catch your ex immediately so that they won’t hang out with someone else. Well, most people are seized by emotions when…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Apr 19, 2012  
1
  Likes: 4

Can't Stop Thinking About My Ex Boyfriend - How To Tackle This Situation
It's easy to see how relationships can take over all aspects of our lives, and we can become completely wrapped up in them. When things are going well, our happiness revolves around the fact that we have a wonderful partner who enriches our lives and makes everything better. When things…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Jul 19, 2012  
18
  Likes: 10

My Boyfriend Wants To Be Friends But I Want More
At some point in your life you may have found yourself having to end a relationship for one reason or another. This puts some people at a complex position of having to deal with an ex. Some wonder if they should cut off the ex completely considering the pain that…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Jul 26, 2012  
0
  Likes: 3

Get Ex Boyfriend Back - What Can I Do for Him to Change His Mind About the Break Up
very other woman would attest to this. Breakups are heart breaking if not very stressful. It is a time one feels as if she would want the earth to open up and bury her in its berry. Most of the women cry. Others become so frustrated that their output at…
By: Franklin2 in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Feb 25, 2013  
0
  Likes: 0

How to Get Him to Call You Back – Sneaky Tips to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
The hardest part of a breakup is the abrupt lack of communication. When you're used to having someone in your daily life, suddenly being unable to see or talk to them can be positively devastating. Most women also know that they could get their exes back if only they could…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Oct 23, 2012  
0
  Likes: 2

Things to Do to Get Your Girlfriend Back
When a relationship between a couple ends it can be a very hard thing for both the boy and the girl to take. Sadly very few breakups happen on good terms because there is normally one person who still wants to be in the relationship when the other one doesn’t…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Sep 08, 2012  
0
  Likes: 1

Article Views: 5697    Report this Article