After your relationship ends, you're on the desperate hunt for anything you can say or do to forget the breakup ever happened and put everything back together.

Unfortunately, it's hard to find the answer - especially since no magical answer exists. There isn't a lone-ranger type text that can put the breakup in the past and chalk it up to a fluke while also simultaneously rebuilding your relationship and making it better and stronger than ever. There isn't a way to put all of the negativity associated with breakups on hold. In fact, ignoring these feelings can be even more dangerous and damaging than acknowledging them and dealing with them as they come.

After a breakup, you need to be more concerned with timing and having a concrete plan in place than finding the text solution to all of your problems. If you and your ex haven't been in touch since things took a downward turn, you need to reconnect and open the lines of communication again. That can't be accomplished by jumping into the fray with your texts swinging. Conversations begin slowly, one message and one response at a time. Things aren't going to get back to normal if you just ignore everything that's happened.

Likewise, there are some periods of time where no text message is appropriate. Right after the breakup, for example, is not the time to be sending your ex lengthy apologies or messages full of desperation and lost hope.

In order to put your plan together and successfully carry it out, you need to recognize the five types of text messages that can actually create a positive result. Once you have the five techniques down, you can put them to use in your situation by personalizing them and making them your own.

* Begin at the Beginning:

If communication hasn't been on-par with any kind of a reunion, you have to find a way to rebuild it and make it a tool for your purposes. This means that you have to see the situation for what it is - and make a shot in the dark. You don't know what your ex's schedule is like, or what they're up to in any given moment. Send them a simple message that encourages but not forces a response. The less pressure they feel to respond within a certain time frame, the more likely they are to respond at all.

* "Best-Of" Messages:

These text messages allow your ex to recall specific instances from your past - and you can direct their memory bank to certain areas. For example, you can send your ex a text about a funny experience that the two of you shared. As they remember the moment, they're going to remember how they felt when it originally happened and reconnect with the feelings that they used to associate with you and your relationship.

* Open Yourself Up to Intimacy

When you have the virtual "remote control" to your ex's memory bank, you can direct their attention in other directions as well. Like Best-Of messages, these messages also rely on past experiences to produce a present response. Instead of funny or humorous memories, however, you'll want to turn your ex's attention towards the times where the two of you felt close. Your ex will remember how good that closeness felt and they'll miss that connection. At that point, you can remind them that bond is still out there, and they are fully capable of getting it back.

* Jealousy Prompts:

Using jealousy can be a powerful weapon in the war of winning back an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. Jealousy is potentially dangerous, however, if it's not carefully put into motion. Jealousy can be a wildfire. It starts small but quickly spirals out of your control. You don't want to lose your ability to guide it properly, and you definitely don't want to send things into a downward spiral. Instead of aiming for making your ex insane with envy, try to focus on making them fearful of losing you completely instead.

* Allow Emotional Honesty:

At some point (long after you and your ex have gotten back in touch) you'll need to come clean. While your feelings are obvious to you, your ex isn't in the same mind frame. You'll need to redirect their attention back to you and your former relationship, and the best way to do that is to be honest and tell them how you really feel. It seems like a big risk (and it can be) but the payoff is huge if you've followed your plan correctly and set things up for a positive response.

Once you have all of these techniques down and you're able to use them properly, it's time to learn how to combine them. Learn which ones are effective and when they're at their maximum capacity. You can create your own system of texting that can encourage results without coming across as overly pushy or controlling. This system can be effective, no matter what your unique situation is - even if your ex is already dating - or if they're still embroiled in the negativity of the breakup.

What’s Next?

It is not just texts that can win back your ex. You need to be able to understand the no contact rule as a whole and how it works on a psychological level with your ex. The secret here is to create intrigue and desire again and you can only do this by following specific strategies.

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