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Contact With An Ex Boyfriend After A Break Up - The Ins And Outs
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Contact With An Ex Boyfriend After A Break Up  -  The Ins And Outs

After a breakup, it is essential to both parties to have some space and allow for some separation. All you can think of is your ex, the breakup and how much you miss him. Maybe you never saw the breakup coming and it took you completely by surprise. It seems like no matter how you try to distract yourself, you're always one simple step away from picking up your phone and calling him. Resist the urge. Contacting him now could work against you in the process of getting him back. Before you make a potentially fatal mistake, you need to think long and hard about what you want to accomplish and how to make those goals a reality.

How many times have you caught yourself halfway through dialing your ex's number before forcing yourself to put the phone back down? How many texts have you almost sent or emails that have ended up in your recycle bin? After a breakup, you desperately want to connect with the guy you thought you knew so well. He's ignoring you if you've sent messages before you could stop yourself. At best, he's certainly not dialing your number. Can you get him to change his mind?

Before taking the matter into your own hands, you need to stop and recognize what's happening. Right now, your ex isn't seeing you as the sweet, beautiful woman that he fell in love with. Because he cannot see you in that positive, memorable way, he hasn't started realizing that he has an empty place in his life where you used to be. Once he starts to pay attention, he'll start the process of missing you and his perception of you will change. You need to encourage that process and allow it to happen if you want to reconnect.

Fight Fire With Fire - Let Him See that You've Let Go

What else do you think he's sure of right now? He's out enjoying his single life, meeting new people, hanging out with his guy friends and doesn't seem to have a care in the world. His carefree attitude is, in large part, thanks to you. You've allowed him to feel confident in his choice to leave. You've pursued him and let him know that he's still desirable - even by the woman he left behind. He thinks that he has you in his pocket - he can go get a taste of whatever he wants and if it doesn't pan out, he can always go back to you, right? Wrong. Show him the error of his ways by refusing to continue the chase. He can move in whichever direction he wants, but when he turns around you're not going to be following after him like he expected.

The human brain works in funny ways sometimes. When it expects to be chased, it's shocked to find out that it wasn't. In fact, when your ex notices that you're no longer tagging along; his instinct to begin the chase in search of YOU will kick in. He may not act on it right away, but it's there underneath the surface just waiting for a golden opportunity. People are naturally attracted to things that seem unattainable and that's the idea that you're going to plant in your ex-boyfriend's head. If he thinks you've let go of your previous relationship and you're moving forward instead, his attraction to you will reignite in a big way. It will make you nearly irresistible. That's what's going to enable a reconciliation that has every chance of lasting long-term.

Your actions now are going to be more important than ever, so you need to actually take some. It's time to be proactive and clear-headed before you take the next step. This means that you need to remember what it's like to have fun. Like it or not, you're single now and that reality comes with its own share of benefits. You never know what's going to happen, so enjoy this time for all it's worth. He's going to hear about it without you having to lift a finger to initiate it. Word spreads fast and he's not going to know how to react. That's when you need to up the ante and give him an irresistible challenge.

Employing the Silent Treatment and Engage his Interest

The best way to get your ex to pay attention to you is the last thing that he's expecting - remove yourself from the scene and stop talking to him altogether. Once he realizes that it's been a few days since he's heard from you and he's not randomly seeing you around, he's going to start to get the picture. After a few more days, he's going to start panicking. Once that self-doubt creeps in, you're in the position to rekindle your romance successfully.

He's going to realize that you're not just sitting around pining over him anymore. Maybe you've moved on. Maybe you're dating. The one thing he knows for certain is that his feelings for you were stronger than he thought when he first broke up with you. He's going to realize that you played a huge roll in his life. The single life suddenly doesn't seem quite so appealing - especially if he feels like he could be replaced. He was counting on you sticking around and you pulled the rug out from under him.

Reaching out - Make him Want to Call You

It's impossible to know exactly what's going on in your ex's mind right now but it's not difficult to imagine. He's realizing that you may be gone for good and he has a lot of mixed up feelings that are resurfacing despite his best efforts to avoid them. If he's still not picking up the phone or emailing you, he may need an extra push in the right direction.

That doesn't mean that you lower your guard and call him instead. Rather than taking that risk, focus on his mind frame more specifically. He's already got you on the brain, and you can encourage those thoughts and bring them to the surface even more. If you can accomplish that while still not making it obvious that you're behind his abrupt change of heart, you're doing wonders to increase your chances. That can be just the extra step needed to get him to initiate contact - and it doesn't require a whole lot of effort on your part.

Your Next Steps

Getting him to want to call you is one thing, but what do you actually say to him once he does? This can be a real dilemma and you do need to know what you are doing to encourage renewed communication. That is why you should use these powerful contact techniques. They will enable you to ignite his desire for you and make things like they first were. If you use them properly you can recreate that magical spark that first existed between you both.

You should also be looking out for the signs he still loves you. It is important to know where you stand at this stage and be able to see if your efforts are having any affect whatsoever. There are things that you can do to encourage his feelings for you to come to the surface is he is not behaving the way that you had hoped, make him jealous. There are constructive ways to use jealousy to your advantage without hurting him or using anyone else.


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  about 6 years ago

I was having a boyfriend. We were known for long time only through phone. Suddenly through some event we met together and we promised we will be together for ever. Both of us are married and not satisfied with the present spouse. But because of some misunderstanding I quarreled with him and humiliated him in front of his friends. After that I realized my mistake and apologized with him like anything. He told me he will try to forget everything. After that we met once and he promised me everything happened because of misunderstanding and now we will together for ever.But after that we never met each other. when we plan to meet some hindrance will happen then it will stop. Also no proper communication. But for me he is my everything. He is the only one who gave such a good satisfaction in my life. I wanted him. I wanted him to meet me, to have sex with me, love me everything. He is very good.and l know He was made for me. But some hindrance keep keeping us apart. i tried to get close to him but nothing was working out until one day i heard about a spell caster called Olorunoduduwaspiritualtemple@gmail. com, i decide to try his love spell and definitely it worked out perfectly for me, it never took time for the spell to start working, after some few days this guy i am loving came to me and wanted us to start dating, we are in love now, our lover is so tight that nothing can brings us apart, this love spell is wonderful Michelle!!

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  about 6 years ago

when my lover left me for another woman. I was hurt and depressed One friend suggested the idea to contact a spell caster, which I would have never thought of myself. I contacted a few of them but dr.marnish@yahoo. com was the person I felt good with. he was understanding, replied all my emails promptly and patiently. Then I decided to place an order for his spell even if at that time I was still a bit skeptical about his capacity to bring my man back to me. Only 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. For that reason, I am gladly leaving a testimonial on this page, wallace anderson from England

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  about 6 years ago

when my lover left me for another woman. I was hurt and depressed One friend suggested the idea to contact a spell caster, which I would have never thought of myself. I contacted a few of them but dr.marnish@yahoo. com was the person I felt good with. he was understanding, replied all my emails promptly and patiently. Then I decided to place an order for his spell even if at that time I was still a bit skeptical about his capacity to bring my man back to me. Only 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. For that reason, I am gladly leaving a testimonial on this page, wallace anderson from England

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  about 6 years ago
julia6  

i told my boyfriend to take a week space from me to sort out his feelings. i was hopeful that things would work out as he was always telling me that he loved me and had strong feelings for me. but all of a sudden he said that he wanted to be single and had doubts about our future together. i did cry but i did not beg him to stay. i said sorry for any hurt i had caused him and thanked him for showing me love. very hard but i did it with as much dignaty as i could. but i never understand why he dont want to stay with me. but before he left he told me i am irressistable, lovely warm person etc but he just want to walk away from my life. the pain was awful. our getting together was fateful and we found out our birthday both 1st june. he is 43 and i am 44. it was weird. i thought we were made for each other. he deleted my numbers but i never let go of him. i wanted him back but he has made up his mind so i had no choice but to look for a way to get him back so what i did was to look for a spell caster to help me get back my lover fast as possible, when i came across prophetharry@ymail. com, so he did a love spell for me and the spell came out perfect, my lover reconciled with me and we came back together and since then we have been in peace and the lover is flowing perfectly julie

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  about 7 years ago
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