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Ex Boyfriend Is Not Responding To Me - What Do I Do?
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Ex Boyfriend Is Not Responding To Me  -  What Do I Do?

You've probably tried everything. All your options seem to have run out, so you're left scouring the internet for a piece of advice that you haven't considered yet. All the traditional tactics have failed. You've texted a dozen times (or a hundred. You probably lost count). You've emailed every single email address he's known to have, and even some you made up. You've tried to call and become very acquainted with his voicemail recording. It's probably already on your Christmas list. Nothing you do seems to be working - your ex boyfriend simply won't respond to you. You haven't heard a peep in days, weeks or even a month or more and you're starting to think that it's really over and it's time to give up. Is it?

Maybe - maybe not. There is always a way that can get you back together with your ex, as long as you play your cards right. Knowing how to find that way and utilizing it correctly to your advantage is the hard part. It's a tricky tightrope to walk, and your position seems rather precarious - at least for the moment. It's time to regain your balance.

Your Reaction

How did your breakup go? Did you handle it with a stiff upper lip and took one for the team? Probably not. Don't worry - most women don't handle things like this gracefully. Did you fight him tooth and nail or did you simply walk out with your head held high? Most women fall into the trap of emotion when faced with a breakup, and it's normal. You're not alone. Did you beg for him to reconsider? Did you promise to change everything about yourself if he'd give you another chance? That's normal too. Did you break the door off of its hinges as you slammed it behind you, calling your ex every name in the book? The way you reacted to your breakup says a lot for your chances of reversing that decision and getting back together.

The best case scenario had you face the breakup with a quiet, calm demeanor. You allowed yourself to see your ex's point of view and even agreed with a lot of the points he made - or at least made him think so. If this was your reaction of choice, you're one step ahead of the pack. This reaction is designed to subconsciously rock his world and make him reconsider what may have been a split decision. Your ex is probably sitting there right now wondering what he could have done wrong to make you just agree with him so calmly. This is a good sign if you really want him back.

If you begged, cried, pleaded, cursed or threw flying objects in his general direction, then your reaction wasn't as positive as it may have been. Not all hope is gone, however - there are ways to turn that reaction around. Now you're faced with a game of getting back to where you WANT to be. You need to make your ex miss you in every way possible, and that's why you need to back off NOW and break all contact with your ex before the situation gets any worse. You want him to change his mind and want to communicate with you again. Breaking all contact off is the only way to accomplish that effectively when your ex boyfriend won't talk to you.

What Will Make Him Want You Back

Chances are you're missing a vital part of the breakup process that would turn his decision on its head. Breakups have a way of wreaking havoc on all areas of your life. They instantly set your mindset to the negative side. You start to freak out and the constant anxiety will start to creep in. What will your life be like without your boyfriend? How will things be different? Those thoughts start compounding and the trigger the waterworks and cravings for chocolate. From there, it's a downward spiral of badness. Do you find pity an attractive quality in a mate? Neither does your ex.

Pity can ruin your potential chances of getting your relationship back the way you want it. Pity can be a good feeling at first - you're the victim of an unwanted breakup, and it feels good to feel sorry for yourself. But that good feeling is fleeting, and it doesn't last for long. Pity will make your ex run in the opposite direction. It's like a dangerous virus that he's afraid of being exposed to for any length of time.

Pity naturally evokes feelings of guilt by the party that caused your pain in the first place, and guilt trips are no fun for anyone. A lot of women commonly make this mistake. They think that guilt is a great way to rekindle their romance. While he may try to comfort you for a time, he will have mentally checked out long ago and will be looking for the quickest escape hatch as quickly as humanly possible.

The Best Option for Getting Him Back

The best way to get your ex's attention and draw him back to you is to simply live your life. It can be hard to learn to laugh again, but enjoy the life you have to the fullest. Move forward. Don't contact him in order to intentionally try to make him jealous - he'll see right through that charade. You want him to be envious of the life that you're having without having to lift a finger. You need to show him that you're the same person that you used to be - the person that he fell in love with to begin with. When you avoid all of these disastrous break up mistakes, you will suddenly notice a change in him towards you.

Simply have fun. Go out with your friends and family. Enjoy yourself. Seeing you happy and smiling again will make him forget about the self-pitying girl he expected to find.

Next Steps

He may come running back to you sooner than you think, but you still have a lot of work to do to make your new (old) relationship work. Don't try to play it by ear - you could risk chasing him away again, and this time it could be for good. Try looking at things from his point of view. Getting into his head and understanding the male psyche can be a valuable tool to have at your disposal. This is when you have to understand why men dump women and pull away.

Learn the ins and outs of an effective "no contact" policy. If you can pull this trick off successfully, he'll be dying to get in touch with you again. If you play your cards right, he will never ignore your calls again. If you can work on your communication effectively, things could be better than ever, and you can get right back to where you want to be.


Street Talk

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  about 6 years ago

I was having a boyfriend. We were known for long time only through phone. Suddenly through some event we met together and we promised we will be together for ever. Both of us are married and not satisfied with the present spouse. But because of some misunderstanding I quarreled with him and humiliated him in front of his friends. After that I realized my mistake and apologized with him like anything. He told me he will try to forget everything. After that we met once and he promised me everything happened because of misunderstanding and now we will together for ever.But after that we never met each other. when we plan to meet some hindrance will happen then it will stop. Also no proper communication. But for me he is my everything. He is the only one who gave such a good satisfaction in my life. I wanted him. I wanted him to meet me, to have sex with me, love me everything. He is very good.and l know He was made for me. But some hindrance keep keeping us apart. i tried to get close to him but nothing was working out until one day i heard about a spell caster called Olorunoduduwaspiritualtemple@gmail. com, i decide to try his love spell and definitely it worked out perfectly for me, it never took time for the spell to start working, after some few days this guy i am loving came to me and wanted us to start dating, we are in love now, our lover is so tight that nothing can brings us apart, this love spell is wonderful Michelle!!

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  about 6 years ago
Thanks3  

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  about 6 years ago

I recently saw a testimony about this spell caster, before that, my problem was that, A guy i who have been dating me for 8 months departed from me because he fell in love with someone else, I was so hurt and depressed. so a friend suggested the idea of contacting a spell caster, which I never thought of myself. after i contacted dr.marnish@yahoo. com for his help. I asked him to do a love spell for me so that my lover can come back to me, but before the spell was done, I was a bit skeptical about his capacity to bring my man back to me. Only 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. He doesn't cheat me now. Also, I feel no heartache anymore For that reason, I will never forget the good dr manish did to me, there is no word to say how grateful I am for returning my lover back to me, I am gladly leaving a testimonial on this page, wallace Diana anderson from England

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  about 6 years ago
julia6  

i told my boyfriend to take a week space from me to sort out his feelings. i was hopeful that things would work out as he was always telling me that he loved me and had strong feelings for me. but all of a sudden he said that he wanted to be single and had doubts about our future together. i did cry but i did not beg him to stay. i said sorry for any hurt i had caused him and thanked him for showing me love. very hard but i did it with as much dignaty as i could. but i never understand why he dont want to stay with me. but before he left he told me i am irressistable, lovely warm person etc but he just want to walk away from my life. the pain was awful. our getting together was fateful and we found out our birthday both 1st june. he is 43 and i am 44. it was weird. i thought we were made for each other. he deleted my numbers but i never let go of him. i wanted him back but he has made up his mind so i had no choice but to look for a way to get him back so what i did was to look for a spell caster to help me get back my lover fast as possible, when i came across prophetharry@ymail. com, so he did a love spell for me and the spell came out perfect, my lover reconciled with me and we came back together and since then we have been in peace and the lover is flowing perfectly julie

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  about 7 years ago
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