When you want to get your ex boyfriend to call you, there are a few things that you will need to understand first. With a basic understanding of the male mindset, you will have a huge advantage and know exactly what to do to make it happen. The truth is that men and women are very different in their wants and needs within a relationship. There are some facets that are universal however. We all want passion, chemistry and enjoy the thrill of the chase for example.
Look at the beginning of your relationship
Getting your boyfriend to call you in the early stages of your romance was probably not even a thought in your mind, that is because he did it automatically out of his own free will. This is what you have to make happen again. Getting your ex boyfriend to the place where he actually wants to pick up the phone to you, not out of guilt or a sense of duty, but because he really wants to hear your voice, is possible.
The thrill of the chase for him was instrumental in his decision to ring you often. He liked the fire, excitement and unknown in these beginning phases. Of course you can't reverse time and make things like they once were, but there are some very powerful techniques that you can start employing today to make him more likely to want some sort of contact with you.
What if my ex boyfriend is ignoring me?
Even if your ex boyfriend is ignoring you right now, there is a way to reverse this situation completely and make him be the one who does the chasing, rather than the other way round. The secret is centered around making him feel the way he did and recreating that magic that was so formidable when you first got together. The best thing about this is that it works even better if he is ignoring you and will not contact you.
Let him ignore you right now, you cannot force him into contact with you as it will only backfire. No one wants to feel pressured into doing anything. If he is ignoring you he obviously doesn't feel a sense of obligation to you anymore, and you need to accept that. It doesn't necessarily mean that this will always be the case though. Making him care about you and feel some responsibility for your happiness is what you are trying to achieve here. Ignore him back, at least for the time being, this will make him worry that you are moving on too and he will be more prone to do something about it.
The chase is on and you are the prey!
Getting your ex boyfriend to call you is actually kind of easy. First though, you need to make him want to chase you again. This has a lot to do with your behaviour, so you are going to have to be honest with yourself here, are you stalking him? That is a big no no if you want to make him want to chase you. By stalking him, you are essentially giving him the excuse to get as far away from you as possible. Men like to do the chasing, not be forcefully chased themselves! You have to allow him to feel masculine by letting him pursue you, it is the natural way of things.
That is not to say that you must sit patiently like a good girl and only speak when spoken to. What you do in the interim, while you are waiting for him to get his ass in gear, is to pave the way for him to come to you. This is as simple as deciding not to run after him and pester him. Once you disappear suddenly and completely from his life he will be asking himself what has happened to you. The truth is, he expects you to put up a fight after the break up, he expects you to try and make him see sense. His ego wants it. When you refuse to give him that ego boost he will suddenly feel just a tad vulnerable.
Stop the text message terrorism - put your hands in handcuffs if you have to
Now is the time that you need to put a stop to your incessant phone calls, text messages, emails and constant illusive Facebook updates that are loaded with double meaning. He knows those updates are meant for him and quite honestly, he is laughing to himself about them. I know that sounds harsh, but it is likely the case.
The more your presence is felt online, or in the physical realm, the less chance he will have to miss you. When you are constantly forcing yourself on him to get a reaction, you are only doing yourself a huge injustice and making yourself look rather foolish in the process. It takes guts to stop all contact completely and remove yourself from Facebook, but it is a necessary part of the process in getting him to crave you again.
How he will be reacting to your sudden disappearance
Once your ex boyfriend thinks that there is a chance that you have moved on, he will start to panic if he has any feelings for you at all. He got used to the regular contact from you and liked the way it made his ego feel. Now that you're gone however, he will want to know why. He will start feeling a little shaky and suddenly he won't feel so sure of himself.
After days pass with not a peep from you, he will naturally think that something has happened, he may even call you to check that everything is okay. Maybe he will think that you are out enjoying yourself on a date and have found someone new. This is what you want him to think. Once his mind goes into overdrive, he will not be able to control himself anymore and will likely get in contact. See how you have done a complete role reversal here, making him the one wanting to contact you? All it takes is self control and a lot of patience!
Your Next Steps
So you have figured out how to get your ex boyfriend to call you. What do you do when this happens though. You don't want all this hard work to go to waste, so knowing how to contact him after the break up is essential. You will also need to earn how to use specific attraction techniques to stir up interest in him and make him want you back.
Also arm yourself with some knowledge about whether or not he still has feelings for you. He will be acting differently when he gets in touch with you and be frightened of losing you for good. Certain signs he still likes you will be hard to read, but you need to know where you stand so that you can progress to the next stage - getting him back.
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