Your boyfriend has real issues when it comes to communication. In fact, his lack of communication is causing real problems and misunderstandings between the two of you. You are trying to be patient but keep feeling as though you're being left out in the cold deliberately. Is there any way you can approach him about his lack of communication and what it's doing to you, how you feel, and your relationship? You don't want to run him off but you're really not getting the security you need from him. How do you get him to open up and talk to you about the problems he's having with communication?

First of all, it's never easy to confront a man about a problem you believe he's having. When it comes to communication, or lack thereof as the case m nay be, it's even more difficult because there are already issues with communications in the relationship. But you don't have to confront him with a lack of communication in order to get him to open up. In fact, that can be the worst possible thing to do. It can go wrong in so many ways if you don't tread carefully. But, there are things you can do that will open the lines of communication between the two of you. More importantly, they will help you both have more productive communication than ever before.

Ask questions that can't be answered with "yes" or "no." Have you ever noticed that if you ask your husband a question he'll answer with as few words as possible? Some women get offended by this and feel that it's his way of avoiding talking to them but that isn't the case. You don't have to worry about how to save your marriage just yet. It's just that men believe in being economical with words. They aren't deep thinkers and they rarely have agendas that go beyond the obvious: food, sex, and fun though not always in that order.

Once you've asked the question it's time to really listen to the answer. Comment on the answer and seek clarification to make sure you're understanding exactly what he is saying. Too often, couples hear something that the other person wasn't saying. Whether the case is that one person is reading something into the statement that wasn't there or simply hearing it in a way that makes sense to them it can cause problems in the relationship if not dealt with. When you ask for confirmation you're giving him the chance to acknowledge that you have it right or correct you wherever misunderstandings may exist.

Learning to ask questions and hear the answers as they are intended is one skill that can save your relationship and even help you get your ex back if that's what you want to do. Regardless of how you choose to use it, it's an important tool for anyone interested in happier days ahead to master.