You don't bump into her often but whenever you do you find it impossible to talk to your ex girlfriend without getting all tongue-tied or sticking your foot in yourmouth big time. How do you talk to her without coming across as if you've completely lost all sense of ability to communicate since she's left? How do you talk to your ex without sticking your foot in your mouth?

This question is more common than most guys realize. Honestly, if you're having this much trouble talking to your ex, there's a huge chance that you're still not completely over her and ready to move on. There's no harm in that. The problem is that you still want her to be IMPRESSED by you. This means that you want the words you do say to her whenever your paths happen to cross to weigh favorably about you in her eyes. That means you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself and your words. The thing is, you don't have to. She was already impressed with you before – as you were. You shouldn't go out of your way to impress her now that she's moved on without you.

Of course, that doesn't mean you aren't going to try. There will always be this part of you that seeks to impress the woman you love. If you're still hoping to impress your ex that means that a small part of you is still carrying a torch for her. Yes, it's true, even if a large amount of time has passed between then and now. What this means is that your really have three choices available to you. You can work to get over your ex, you can learn how to talk to her without getting tongue-tied, or you can get your ex back.

Here are a few things you should keep in mind the next time you bump into your ex girlfriend so that you can talk to her without getting a good taste of your shoes in the process.

• Don't try to impress her. Just be yourself. It's old wisdom that is often ignored but who you are is who really impressed her the first time around. It's bound to work again if you "stay in character."
• Don't dance around the issues. Get to the point. If you're interested in a second chance there is no harm in asking her to coffee, ice cream, or something simple and low pressure that she'll find difficult to refuse.
• Be proud of who you are and she will have no choice but to be proud of you and for you too. If you aren't there yet, make the changes that are needed to get you there. It will be the best thing you can do for yourself and for her opinion of you.

You don't have to move heaven and earth to impress the girl who left you behind. You don't have to be an expert conversationalist in order to communicate how you feel and how you want to make her feel. There is no academic communication lesson that is going to help you out nearly as much as learning to communicate from the heart will. It can even help you save your relationship after you thought the chance had long since passed you by.