Before discussing the optimal period of time to wait before contacting your ex after a breakup, we first need to discuss what you shouldn't do right after your romantic relationship has ended. Although it's natural to indulge in self-pity during this time, it isn't very constructive and will do nothing to recapture the attention and affection of your ex. Keeping in mind that some of your natural reactions to the breakup will work against you if you want to get back with your ex will help you to develop the necessary self control to optimize your chances of romantic success. Even if it actually is too late for a recently ended relationship, these tactics will serve you well in your future relationships.

Although it's tempting for those whose ex boyfriends or girlfriends have just broken up with them to pick up the phone and call them, doing so immediately after the breakup isn't advised. Other post-breakup activities that should be avoided include driving past your ex's place of resident or workplace or otherwise engaging in behavior that can be construed as stalkerish and bizarre. At best, you'll only embarrass yourself if your ex notices you driving by, and at worst, your ex will become afraid of you. After all, so much is portrayed in the modern media concerning estranged exes indulging in criminal and even harmful behavior in attempts to win their ex boyfriends or girlfriends back.

Premature calling or otherwise contacting your ex after a breakup will only cause the person to view you in a negative way. Begging for another chance or wanting to rehash the reasons why they broke up with you screams of desperation and instability. If you sincerely want to re-establish the relationship, these sort of actions will only sabotage any chances that you've got of doing so. If you don't learn some effective methods of self control, getting back together with your ex is going to be impossible.

How You Should Behave While Your Ex Is Breaking Up With You

If you're reading this while you're still involved in a relationship, you're probably doing so because you've got a sense that a breakup might be taking place in the near future. If that's the case, you've got a great chance to prepare yourself now so that your conduct during the breakup doesn't ruin any chance of ever being able to get your ex back.

Your first instincts as your girlfriend or boyfriend is delivering the breakup speech will probably be to argue against the breakup and list reasons why the two of you should remain romantically involved. However, what you do during this crucial time can severely impact your chances of resurrecting the relationship.

Yous boyfriend or girlfriend as already made up his or her mind, so trying to convince them otherwise during this time simply will not work. Instead of trying to argue and convince them to give your romance another chance, you should put yourself on their side by agreeing that perhaps things have not been working out and that going your separate ways may be the best thing for both of you. Wish your ex luck and prepare for them to be stunned by your words.

They'll be stunned because this is not the reaction that they were expecting, and they may even immediately begin to think that they might be making a mistake in breaking up with you. This tactic allows you to be the one with the power in the situation and will help you to retain your ex's respect and admiration. Agreeing that taking time apart may be in the best interests of both of you will make you appear much more attractive than sulking or crying.

Strategies For After Your Ex Breaks Up With You

If you're reading his because your boyfriend or girlfriend has already broken up with you, you might be feeling helpless and confused and looking for advice on how to get him or her back. There are ways to make this happen and the most effective ones are discussed here. It's important that these strategies be followed closely if you want to give yourself a fighting chance of renewing your relationship.

How Long Should You Wait Before Picking Up The Phone?

Waiting four weeks before initiating contact with your ex is recommended if you've let them know that you've accepted the breakup and have broken off all contact with them. That means that there have been no emails, text messages, telephone calls or even social media postings during that time between the two of you.

This will give your ex the opportunity to miss you and put some serious thought into whether or not life was better before the relationship ended. However, it won't give your ex enough time to move on to another involvement or even to begin to successfully date again.

Your ex will actually welcome hearing from you if you wait before initiating contact and won't feel as if he or she is being pressured to resume the relationship. They'll feel curiosity concerning what is going on in your life and won't suspect you of having an ulterior motive if you wait a reasonable amount of time before calling. This is one thing that can't involve any compromises -- you're going to be very tempted to call your ex before the four week time period is up, but resisting the urge will increase your chances of getting your ex back.

Your Next Steps

After you've successfully had no contact with your ex for the period of one months, there are several strategies that you can use in order to make the idea of resuming your romance attractive to your ex.

Guys, to get back your ex girlfriend you will have to start looking at things from the female perspective, a good idea first would be to find out her feelings for you. She will be exhibiting strong clues that she is still interested if you learn to read them correctly.

Girls, it is time to pull the blinkers off and find out how he really feels about you after the break up. Once you understand the signs he still loves you, you will know exactly when to contact him and make it a positive experience.