Your girlfriend says you need to learn to communicate if you want to stay with her. How do you communicate with her better so that you can save your relationship with her? You want to do the right thing and make her happy. Is this the right first step to take to try and keep your relationship together or is it going to be one long exercise in futility for both of you.

Relationships are like fingerprints. No two are exactly alike. There are no one-size-fits-all solutions to whatever it is that is ailing in your relationship. That being said, learning to communicate more effectively is something that will help the relationship you have now with your girlfriend as well as all other relationships you'll ever have in the future. It's important for you to understand that good communication isn't limited to romantic relationships just as it isn't limited to verbal communication. The best communication skills are often those that do not rely on words at all. If you want to stay with your girlfriend or avoid breaking up with her then the non-verbal communication skills are just as important as learning to communicate better verbally.

Men often think that women are impossible to read. They are often surprised to discover that women feel the same way about them. The crux of the situation is that both men and women often fail to pick up on non-verbal cues that would explain a lot about their partners. Law firms pay big money for people to come in during jury selection and watch the non-verbal cues of potential jury pools. They understand just how instrumental these subtle communication cues can be in getting a jury that is more sympathetic to the cause of their clients. If you want to save your relationship they can be instrumental for that purpose as well.

Here are a few non-verbal communication cues to be on the lookout for in your relationship.

1) Failure to make eye contact. This is often a sign that she's being less than completely honest with you. It could be the "why yes honey I'd love to go to the tractor pull with you" evasive method that says she's only going because she loves you and wouldn't be caught dead or alive at the tractor pull otherwise. Or it could be a sign of something else but it generally means that she isn't telling you the whole truth about whatever it is you're discussing. 2) Body language tells no lies. Another thing to watch for is her body language. Is she leaning into you? This usually means she either likes what she is hearing from you or that she's really listening to what you have to say. It's a good sign. Is she leaning away from you? This is a good indication that she doesn't like what she's hearing or that you've turned her off somehow.

Learn to read the cues her body language and eye contact are giving and how to communicate verbally with your girlfriend to enjoy a long and lasting relationship together. It will definitely reduce the odds that you'll need to look for ways to get your ex back again.