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Is Calling My Ex Boyfriend A Good Idea? - The Bad News
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Is Calling My Ex Boyfriend A Good Idea?  -  The Bad News

For a woman, no time seems more uncertain or unclear than the period after a breakup when she wants to reconnect with her ex-boyfriend. A lot of things hang in the balance, and you have more questions after the breakup than you did before it happened. It's hard to know exactly where you stand and how good your chance of success is. You don't really know what to say or when to say it and you're unsure of how he'll respond.

Although every situation is unique and complex, if you want to get your ex back it's obvious that you will have to speak to him at some point. You can't wait for the magic relationship fairy to show up with a magic wand and beat him over the head until he changes his mind. Sometimes it's up to you to roll the dice and take action if he's not stepping up. When you've spent some time waiting by the phone to no avail, it seems like calling him may be your best bet, but is it?

You may be getting ahead of yourself unintentionally. Before you can even think about making contact with you ex, you should be working towards making him change his perception. If he still sees you as the pitiful, sobbing mess that he broke up with, he's not going to be receptive to what you have to say. You have to get him to start thinking of you positively, and that means that he has to miss you. That will make initial contact much more welcomed and lead towards a positive outcome.

Show Him That You're Over It

You need to understand one simple principle if you're going to get your ex-boyfriend back. The longer you pursue him, the further he will run. As long as you're actively trying to get him back, that's the last thing that he's going to want to do. He won't start to reconsider his decision to leave you and the relationship behind until he starts to realize he may not be able to have it. This is based on simple human psychology. Right now, by chasing endlessly after a broken relationship, you're simply showing him that he hasn't lost anything at all. He can go back to the way things were any time he wants to - but why would he want to if he left it in the first place?

It may be plainly obvious to you and all of your friends that all you want is to get back together with your ex-boyfriend, but don't let him see that. In fact, avoid that perception at all costs. Don't show up at his office or get caught driving by his house. Don't send him cards or presents and don't text him in the middle of the night. Don't give him any indication that you're still interested in the relationship at all. Psychology plays tricks on people - as soon as it seems an ex is moving on, they're instantly more attractive.

If you realize that you're just wasting time by planting yourself next to the phone, don't be chained to the expectation anymore. You don't have to wait around to see if your ex is going to call you - make it happen. Show him that you're okay with the breakup - better still, let him see that it was a good call. Let him hear second, third or fourth-hand that you're doing great and life is better than ever.

Cut Contact Completely

Instead of playing the role of an ex with an agenda, the best way for you to show your ex that you mean business is to cut out all contact completely. He's hanging on the edge right now, and he's probably close to picking up the phone and dialing your number himself. When you cut contact, you have to commit to it completely or you're limiting its effectiveness. That means you can't sneak texts to your ex-boyfriend when no one's looking and you can't still post pictures on his Facebook wall. You need to move away from him totally and create an air of silence and mystery around yourself, your life and your current activities.

Once you've been taken out of the picture, your ex will start to notice a big difference. This is when he'll truly start to come to terms with what's missing in his life and how much he valued having you around. He's going to try to convince himself that you're just playing hard to get but underneath the surface, he's going to start to feel increasingly insecure. Maybe he wasn't worth sticking around for after all. Or maybe you've just found someone better. That will instantly get his attention and make him want to make a move. This could be exactly what causes him to rethink the breakup - or even abandon the idea of leaving you completely.

Encouraging Him to Make the First Move

Ideally by this point, you shouldn't have to do anything. Your ex should be missing you like crazy and he will want to reach out and reestablish contact at least to see what you've been up to. If you've successfully avoided contact for a few weeks, he's going to be driving himself crazy with possibilities and you may not have to do a thing.

If the phone still isn't ringing, he may still need some time away from you. This isn't a bad sign! You can look at the positive side of limited to no contact with your ex-boyfriend. Needing time apart can indicate that his feelings for you are still strong and he's having difficulty putting them aside or out of mind completely. At this point, calling him yourself may be counterproductive if he's still working through his own emotions.

Although he ended the relationship, he doesn't want to see you hurting. He may be avoiding you in order to deal with his own feelings of guilt over ending the relationship. The best thing to do is to put your instincts on a back burner and not undo all your hard work up to this point. There are other methods available for rekindling his interest and getting him to reach out to you first. Learning these techniques isn't as hard as it seems. Remember, subtlety is the key here, and you don't want to overdo it.

Your Next Steps

Now that you know how to get him to call you, your next step is to make that contact positive and leave him wanting more. There is no point in just having one conversation and it stops there, you have to encourage him to want to contact you again and again. This is when you have to recreate that magical spark that used to exist between you both with this powerful attraction techniques. Do it right and he will be pursuing you like mad.

It doesn't stop there though, be aware of the importance of making ex boyfriend miss you. That is a huge accomplishment and will greatly improve your chances of a reconciliation. Good luck!


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  about 5 years ago
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  about 5 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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  about 6 years ago
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