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My Ex Boyfriend Is Not Talking To Me - How Do I Get Him Back Now?
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My Ex Boyfriend Is Not Talking To Me  -  How Do I Get Him Back Now?

So, your ex boyfriend is not talking to you and you don't know why. You have probably left his loads of voice mails and texts to no avail - he just won't budge. In the forefront of your mind you have all of these questions and self doubts about why he won't talk to you. It can seem very cruel, especially since you used to be so close. It can also seem childish and immature. You just want to know why. There are lots of possible reasons and you have to be able to see things from his perspective before you can proceed.

Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Not Talking To You

Maybe you hurt him - Even if you were not the one that broke up with him, things could have been said during the break up that upset him and they are still going through his head. Break ups are tense times and your emotions will be at an all time high. Everything that you said was probably memorized and gone over numerous times in his head and he could have blown it all out of proportion.

The same goes for how you treated him after the break up. Have you been pretending that you don't care? Have you been flirting with other guys or dating again? He will be paying special attention to your moves in the days and weeks after your break up. He will be sensitive to anything that you do or say and think that it reflects on him. This is a natural reaction and you could have inadvertently said or done something that he has taken badly. He won't tell you what that was, so you cannot rectify it. You have to think carefully yourself and try to pinpoint this to try to see things his way.

Even if you didn't do anything wrong at all he could still be hurting. Break ups are tough and it would be unnatural for him not to feel anything. You must remember that guys handle things a lot differently to us women. Their male pride is at stake here and they will put up walls of epic proportions if they think that they are being attacked. He might just be trying to protect himself here by not talking to you. He thinks that if he lets you in, you could hurt him again.

He might be trying to prove a point - When there are a lot of residual feelings involved after a break up a guy's mind can go into overdrive and he hits out at the person that he wants to gain a reaction from - YOU. He might be trying to see if you still care. He knows that if he doesn't respond after the break up you will react in some way. He is looking out for this as a way to know what you are really feeling. If you didn't care about your ex boyfriend not talking to you, then you would just leave it and not contact him again. If you start to get emotional, angry or quiz him in subsequent communication he will know that you still care about what he thinks.

Another way guys try to prove a point is by hurting the person that hurt them. Maybe he wants to give you a taste of your own medicine and thinks that ignoring you is a good way to do this. If you rejected him then he is counter-rejecting you by pushing you out of his life completely. It is not kind or mature behaviour, but when someone is hurting they tend to lash out. Try to think beyond his actions at the moment and dig down into the real reasons behind why he is not talking to you.

He might genuinely not want to talk - Although it is difficult to hear. Your ex boyfriend may want to move on and the only way that he thinks he can do this is by cutting ties with you completely. Your texts and emails might have become somewhat worrying and he wants to distance himself from your behaviour because he is unsure of your mental state. Men do not like emotions and can't really handle them, so when you are sending text after text, getting more and more needy, he pulls away even further.

Your ex boyfriend may have already moved on and that is why he is not talking to you anymore. He could think that replying to you will give you false hope and he doesn't want to string you along when he knows that he has no feelings left for you. He thinks that the best way to do things is clearly and brutally so that you can get the message. There are ways that you can turn this situation around though if these are the reasons behind his decision to ignore you. You just have to hone in on psychological truisms that will make him sit up and take notice of you again.

How To Get Him To Talk To You Again

The first thing that you should do is to stop whatever you are doing now because it obviously isn't working. Do not make the mistake of continuing contact with him if he is not responding - you are only making things worse. Your job now is to make your ex boyfriend think differently about you now. He probably thinks that you are needy and feels a little sorry for you at this stage. You have to change his perception into a positive one where he sees you as independent and a potential girlfriend again.

The best thing that you can do now is to stop communication with him completely and avoid him in person if that is possible. Dropping off the face of the earth (not literally of course) is a very effective and quick way to regain his attention. He will wonder where all of your texts and emails have gone, why you are not paying him attention anymore. He got used to the fact that you would contact him and he probably secretly liked it as it gave his ego a boost. He was in control of the situation at that point and you were giving all of the power to him. Cutting contact with him completely will take that power back and make you feel good about yourself again.

It is crucial that you bring those old feelings and memories back in his mind before you can even get him to reconsider a reunion with you. How you do this is also important, you can not just go up to him and remind him about how much he used to love you - this just won't work. You have to be more clever than this and work behind the scenes. The most powerful results will be seen when he thinks that you are not doing anything at all. He has to think that he is coming to his own conclusions without your input for this to work.

Your Next Steps

We have touched briefly upon no contact with your ex boyfriend to get him back and make him want to talk to you. There is much more that you need to understand about the no contact rule and why it works though. If you can get this part right then he will be compelled to talk to you again.

Another key thing that you will have to learn is how to make him want you back. There are subtle yet powerful techniques that you can implement right now to create a drastic change of heart from him. This is only the beginning, if you can avoid all of the break up mistakes that you have been making thus far, you have a really good chance of getting him back!


Street Talk

I hate to say this i have to cos even of it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a fancy way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife wanted out of a eleven years marriage with beautiful kids. As ashamed and as sorry as i am, it was all my fault. I made our marriage almost come to an end but glade it didn't all thinks to Mutton Osun a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink. Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family. It didn't stay hidden for so long she found out and she lost it all i saw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce. I loved this woman with all my heart heart and was really not going to let her go. As i said i asked a spell caster Mutton Osun to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy one of the only good help out there. IF you may contact do it with this email godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago

I hate to say this i have to cos even of it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a fancy way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife wanted out of a eleven years marriage with beautiful kids. As ashamed and as sorry as i am, it was all my fault. I made our marriage almost come to an end but glade it didn't all thinks to Mutton Osun a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink. Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family. It didn't stay hidden for so long she found out and she lost it all i saw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce. I loved this woman with all my heart heart and was really not going to let her go. As i said i asked a spell caster Mutton Osun to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy one of the only good help out there. IF you may contact do it with this email godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago

I hate to say this i have to cos even of it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a fancy way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife wanted out of a eleven years marriage with beautiful kids. As ashamed and as sorry as i am, it was all my fault. I made our marriage almost come to an end but glade it didn't all thinks to Mutton Osun a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink. Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family. It didn't stay hidden for so long she found out and she lost it all i saw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce. I loved this woman with all my heart heart and was really not going to let her go. As i said i asked a spell caster Mutton Osun to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy one of the only good help out there. IF you may contact do it with this email godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago

I hate to say this i have to cos even of it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a fancy way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife wanted out of a eleven years marriage with beautiful kids. As ashamed and as sorry as i am, it was all my fault. I made our marriage almost come to an end but glade it didn't all thinks to Mutton Osun a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink. Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family. It didn't stay hidden for so long she found out and she lost it all i saw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce. I loved this woman with all my heart heart and was really not going to let her go. As i said i asked a spell caster Mutton Osun to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy one of the only good help out there. IF you may contact do it with this email godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago
mark36  

My name is Mark, from USA. I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit, I meant a man who’s name is DR Moko he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the woman i had wanted to marry left me 3weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 years. I really loved her, but her mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 4 days when i returned to Canada, my Girlfriend called me by herself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and she got a new job interview, so we get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my girlfriend name. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my wife also got the new job and our lives became much better, You can contact him on this email: Mokospellcaster@gmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago
mark36  

My name is Mark, from USA. I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit, I meant a man who’s name is DR Moko he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the woman i had wanted to marry left me 3weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 years. I really loved her, but her mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 4 days when i returned to Canada, my Girlfriend called me by herself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and she got a new job interview, so we get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my girlfriend name. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my wife also got the new job and our lives became much better, You can contact him on this email: Mokospellcaster@gmail. com

Reply
  about 6 years ago
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