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Talking With Your Spouse Or Significant Other, Getting Along In Relationships
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Do you know the divorce rate in this country today is over 50%? Why is that? Is it because we just stopped trying in our relationships? Is it because our lives have become to busy and faced paced, we don't have time for each other? Or maybe we just take each other for granted and think our significant other will "always be there?" Millions of people I'm sure have asked themselves these same questions over and over again, but yet we still have the same end result. Think of the billions of dollars that have been spent on marriage counselors, divorce attorneys, etc. and the devestation this creates not only for the spouses, but for the children that are involved, because of one simple problem we have as a society today, COMMUNICATION.

How many times do you find yourself and your partner going out for dinner and sitting there in silence while you look around at the restaurant to see what others are doing? Or the two of you are driving down the road in silence and you find yourself looking out the window daydreaming about different things. Sit back and think about those several times and in different situations where you have gone through this and not spoke to each other, I bet there were quite a few, more times than you would like to admit.

Don't you think your partner is just as bored as you in these situations? Instead of daydreaming and thinking about different ideas, situations, past, etc. why not try talking to your partner about what is going on in that head of yours? Don't you think they would like you to share? You might be surprised, they may have some input and enjoy talking about the same things you are thinking about. the human brain thinks about several hundred"things" in one single minute, so can you imagine all the topics you could talk about, and you wouldn't be bored.

Think about those early days when the two of you first got together and you just couldn't wait to see each other, you had so many things to talk about, so many things to do. the hours flew by and before you knew it the day was gone and there you were anticipating the next day so you could share another day together.

What happened to those feelings? Are they gone? Did your partner change that much that you just don't feel that way anymore? Believe me, he feels the same way you do, asking himself where did those days go? What if you were back in those days when the two of you first got together, the feelings you shared.

That excited feeling the two of you had for each other, anticipating the next time the two of you were together. Remember, the blood rushing through your body, your heart pumping as fast as it would go? Well, you can have that feeling back again, I've done it myself.

I am 47 years old, have a daughter 13 and a son 7(yes I started late in life) I have been married once and divorced. My favorite motto"You don't know what you had in life until it's gone" Live in the Midwest(yes, it's cold) Have a dog by the name of "Buddy" and a pet fish "Sam"


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