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Texts To Get Him Back  -  Read This Before You Press Send

Despite what you may have heard from your friends or colleagues, it is possible to win an ex back through text messaging - as long as you plan ahead and know exactly what to say and when to say it. Finely tuning a text message is a careful skill that many people fail to properly learn. Using text messages carelessly can have the opposite effect - you can scare your ex away for good and ruin any chance you have of getting back together. You don't want to send texts that are overbearing or bombard them with pointless messages. Texting an ex correctly is a highly skilled process that has several different parts that must be carefully executed to achieve the maximum desired result.

Before you think of taking any action at all, the first thing you need to do is to stop contacting your ex. Don't text him. Don't email him. Don't think of all the justifications for why you really need to send him that message right at this particular time - just stop. It is essential for you to cut ties completely for a four week period. This is the only way that your ex can start to process their own feelings towards you and start the process of missing the presence you used to fill in their life.

After a month of silence, it's time to reconsider communicating. This process must be done extremely carefully or you could ruin any forward progress that you have made up to this point. Use texts that are considered to be wildcard texts but are carefully crafted to fit your purpose. The general idea is to come up with a productive positive message to let your ex know that they're on your mind, and that you're okay with the fact that the two of you have broken up. You want their thoughts of you to turn towards a positive light without exerting any unnecessary pressure. For example, you could send a message that simply says "I caught (insert their favorite movie) on TV last night, and you crossed my mind. I hope you're doing well."

With all the hype in magazines and on the internet these days about the importance of a "no contact rule" you may find this advice to be a little confusing. If everyone's saying that a no contact policy is best, how can texts possibly help you get your ex back? It's true; the no contact rule is an important part of the process. But if you're going to get back together, it has to stop eventually. That's why carefully crafting your text messages to convey the meaning behind what you're trying to say is so important. You don't want to make a mistake and ruin your chances before you even have a shot. You want to use texts carefully and in ways that are advantageous and positive.

Texting is a great way to establish contact without the pressures often associated with phone calls or face-to-face encounters. It limits pressure on both ends and puts both parties on equal footing. This is one of the crucial factors behind not texting your ex right after the breakup has occurred. Your ex needs to process their feelings surrounding the breakup and come to an understanding of their own feelings. It allows both of you the chance to not allow your emotions to dictate your actions.

Texting your ex funny jokes stories or other meaningless messages won't accomplish anything but it may annoy them and push them away. You need to consider the message that you're sending and examine all the possible options prior to hitting the send key. Going overboard will only make you appear desperate. Don't just send messages saying hello, and don't overwhelm your ex with questions.

Get in touch with your sly side instead. You want to come off as being mature and well-together even after your relationship has come to an end. Come off positive and alluring and not needy or desperate. It isn't as hard as it may seem to fit all these attributes in a simple text. These top tips can make your texts an important weapon in the war to get your ex back.

- Do not question them. This is not the inquisition (although torture may seem appealing)

- Don't just say "hello" or ask them how they're doing and leave it at that

- Make sure that you come across happy and positive, but not too over the top - don't get carried away

- make sure any compliments that you send your ex's way are designed subtly and not overly obvious

- Make them think of your past fondly by reminding them of a pleasant, shared moment

- Avoid sounding desperate, childish or needy

- Do not attempt to re-hash the end of your relationship

- Don't get an attitude and come off as resentful

- Don't send him a novel - keep it brief

- don't send a dozen messages, one at a time is enough

- if he doesn't respond to you, don't question him to find out why

Establishing the connection is often the hardest part. Once that's successfully accomplished, there are other ways that you can use texts to use your ex's jealousy to your advantage. There are other ways of texting that let you open up subtly and tell your ex that you still care for them without them springing off in the opposite direction.

These texts need to be used correctly and without mixing them up. Telling them upfront that you're looking to get back together right out of the gate isn't going to get you very far, and it's a plan that is almost guaranteed to fail.

Next Steps

There are ways to change the way your ex perceives the situation and to make them actually want to reestablish contact. Text messaging is one of the most convenient tools at your disposal to get him back as long as you utilize them to your advantage and take it easy. However, it is not the only thing that you should be doing.

First though, you have to realise a couple of things. There is no point trying to get him back with a text if you don't understand why he left you in the first place. The real reasons might surprise you and will enable you to fix what went wrong. Next, you will need to be able to read the signs he loves you still. Without being able to read his body language and what he says, you will not know how to judge your progress and whether your efforts are having any affect on him whatsoever.


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